Finding time for you

Me and my husband have at least one evening a week each that we get for 'us' - we do try for 2 each if we can! - we usually do it after baby is in bed - he goes down around 7/7.30 one of us will stay home and the other is free to do what they please! Would your husband be able to do bedtime 1/2 evenings a week to free you up? X

He does bedtime every night I do everything beforehand, the bath time the stories, once he takes her up for bedtime I’m usually washing up from dinner, tidying toys from the living room, trying to shower myself all that kind of thing, I feel as though I’m just a bit stuck, I’d love to be able to go to the gym and get myself back but I just can’t find the time anywhere as she’s very unpredictable if she wakes up early or not and my partner hears nothing so would worry he wouldn’t wake for her if I went at 5am x

I'm a lone parent with no familial support. I don't get any time at all unless it's booking time off from work and having my little one in nursery. I desperately want to excerise but I literally can't unless it's home workout but I'm just exhausted and don't have the motivation for that.

I started running recently, on a Sunday morning my in-laws look after my daughter for 45 mins whilst we run together, it's the only time of the week we actually get to ourselves. I've got a gym at work so I can go in the work day but if it wasn't for that I'd not be able to have the alone time either. Could you try home workouts instead of going to a gym?

Twice a week I go to the gym for 45 mins- either straight after work or after being home for about an hour. My husband does similar although he prefers his me time to be a quick nap before nursery pick up. We take it turns to do bedtime so the other persons break is tidying up in silence lol. On weekends we take it in turns to get up early with her and the other one stays in bed or goes for a run or whatever

@Ali I’ve tried to squeeze a home work out in when she has her nap but again there so unpredictable I either get 10 minutes or 2 hours as she only has 1 nap, I honestly just wanna feel a bit more like me and I think working out would help with that

@Katherine Shaw it sounds like you might need to look at how you split all the tasks each evening as there is clearly an imbalance. In our house one person does high chair clean up, bath baby story and bed and the other one does dishes and tidying toys etc and prepping for the morning.

My partner goes to the gym either in a morning before our son wakes or goes once his in bed he does this 6 days a week I get my free time an hour 2 days a week before nursery pick up

We’ve started using Sundays as a “sports day” in our house. Our son plays football first, so we both go along to watch and then I go off to play netball on my own, get home and my partner then goes off to play padel in the evening. It works really well for us, gives us each some down time but also in a productive way because we’re each exercising too! We do it every week now, since realising that we needed some “me time” to unwind and be ourselves for an hour or so! x

@Katherine Shaw Im sorry to hear that- its truly impossible for you to get me time if youre giving so much- sounds like its time to reassess as a family and have a chat with your partner ❤️ xx