How do you find your spark again? (Postpartum sahm)
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Omg I can totally relate! I feel like motherhood is one big contradiction. I desperately want to do all the things that interest me and pick up my old hobbies but I’m also so exhausted and burnt out that the thought of it fills me with dread. Not to mention I’m lucky to have found a really great guy who’s a hands on dad and still feel like this. If I get time to do something on my own I spend most the time just feeling guilty and I always feel like I’m on a clock to get back to the baby. It’s crazy. 😵💫
For me it’s to get back out in society and by taking my baby to classes I force myself to look somewhat decent and not rocking up looking like a cavewoman- do a bit of my hair and makeup, wear cute clothes. Going out to see friends again, like at night on weekends, drinks and dinner, date nights, forces me to “doll up”. I took up Pilates and Zumba at 4m for my strength, to work my core back. And hobbies, for me inside the house that’s hair/skin/nails, and I took up salsa lessons at 18m which really boosted up my confidence and gave me purpose and got back my spark again which at the time I was actually looking for a heels class for confidence but the salsa lessons found me instead 😂 (couldn’t find any local heels class). Go on dates, go out see friends, grab an outside hobby. If you like dancing maybe Zumba or salsa/bachata? Even a heels class I’m still looking forward to doing that. But I’m focusing on salsa atm I’ve only got one more level before I’m “advanced”.
It can take 2yrs to feel ‘normal’ again, but I find it’s finding your new ‘normal’. We aren’t the same to what we were pre-babies, so it’s finding what you like now x