Missing out on Life

I’m feeling really fedup at moment about life, I have a gorgeous 15 month old girl who I wanted for a very long time but I’m just struggling with life. It just feels so boring and I just feel so stuck. Me and my partner are a bit older so we don’t get much support meaning time out is hard. I just feel like I’ve totally lost my identity and I’m living the same day everyday. It’s just so hard and I feel like my life is done for anything exciting. I guess I’m not only feeling a bit suffocated by motherhood but also feeling like I’m now officially old at 41. I watch shows where young people are having exciting times, living abroad and falling in love, it makes me so sad and I feel like I won’t have that again. I love my partner but it’s not exactly exciting after 6 years. I just feel so left out and left behind. Anyone else feel the same?

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Could you perhaps book up a family holiday together somewhere to look forward to. Or join a local members club gym or something to get out & get some you time to perk you up a bit. That’s my plan after I have my 2nd child anyway x

Nothing like having a baby to finally feel your age. And I say this because I am 35 with a 14 month old boy and before him I basically felt like a teenager still 😆. I looked very young as well. I think having the baby has definitely aged me physically and emotionally. And it is only the beginning.... But yes, I feel the way you feel. I even find myself craving the attention I used to have from men in the past. Also missing the adventures or opportunities that now seem impossible.

My friends and hobbies keep me feeling young at 38. I see sahm friends during the week, which we just go anywhere and the kids are just tagging along to our endeavours, or we go somewhere specifically for them, on weekends hubby see his boys, I see my gfs, (alternating weeks) singly or in a group, and then I have my 2 dance lessons a week which keeps my fitness up and gives me a social life when all my friends are busy, I dance salsa and bachata so my Friday nights are locked in every week, gives me a chance to dress up and dance my stress and worries away for the evening, I look forward to every Friday it’s what gets me through a hard week. Invite some gfs out, go on more date nights (family friendly if you no one to look after baby, bring them) and find a hobby that is yours alone, that you look forward to doing, better if it’s fitness but doesn’t have to be. Every friend I know has a “hobby” one does Tai Kwok Do karate, one is part of a photography group, one goes night Bingo etc

I completely feel you! I’m 41 and first time mom with an 8 month old. I’ve been staying at home since she was born and my husband and my relationship has been a struggle we’ve had to really work at and trying to get adjusted to our new roles as parents. I recently decided to try and go back to work so I just went on an interview last week. But I felt exactly as you described. Stuck

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