How would you feel if your husband wanted a paternity test?

I think doing a paternity test should be the required to be listed on the birth certificate

@Cassie why? I know who I was with for the past 7 years.

@Cassie i 100 percent agree because its what is fair!! The amount of men raising someone elses child and finding out later in life is appalling

Well, my husband keeps saying "what if our baby was accidentally switched in the hospital," even though he looks EXACTLY like him. Lol maybe a paternity test would get him to stop imagining this

@Caroline that's hilariously adorable but id imagine it can also be hurtful or frustrating

I’d agree but we’d need serious therapy and I don’t know that it would fix it.

Laugh at him because our son has been his twin since birth. i mean, if he really wanted it sure, but you can see they are basically twins his baby photos are the exact same as my son only difference is my son has slightly darker hair sometimes and a bit more tan but he is definitely my partners twin now he is older tye mannerisms the way he is just all my partner lol.

@Cassie interesting idea. But who would pay for it? Most men trust their wives and are happy to be on the birth certificate.

@Caroline but that means they should test mum as well 😳

I will sign consent forms and divorce forms at the same time because what are you insinuating? Unless he has been doing things outside he shouldn’t be to think I’m doing the same

@Cassie I agree. It would save a lot of bs. From cheating to switched babies. And no features don’t determine if a baby is yours

My husband has made comments over the years about wanting a paternity test done on our kids, but I have never cheated & they look just like him lol. I don’t think he’s serious when he says it, but it gets annoying. I would agree to it, but be mad.

If I was absolutely SURE he was the father, I would give him just to shove it in his face & prove a point .then I would leave him...but I'm a very emotional and petty person so you might not want to take my advice lol

I would be upset enough to consider divorce. I rather him just get them tested behind my back and I never ever find out because I’d have such a hard time getting over it. Like yes I know men end up being lied to and raising kids that aren’t their’s… to insinuate that I am capable of such deceit would truly damage our relationship.

It is not needed and would further bog down the system

refusing or being mad at all is weird to me in my opinion

@Missy lmfao i love your honesty 🤣 😂

@Cassie why would you even be with that person if you don't fully trust them? I would never ask something like that to my partner. Same as I would never check his phone or his activities. I implicitly trust him. If I didn't have that trust I would not be with him. For me if he ever would ask me something like that, it means he doesn't trust me, or that he has doubts. Or that he thinks I would lie about something like that. What kind of person would think that about their partner? Where is the trust? You clearly deep down don't trust them, so why stay with them? I'm sorry but I would say, ok here your paternity test as you wished, we can go separate ways now. You'll be great dad but we will not be a family because you clearly don't believe in this family

We've been together 10 years and he has my full trust and i have his we just don't think it's that deep. Besides if it was his anyways why would proving it be an issue? And as far as who would pay for it just add it to the rest of the birth bill because I'm not paying that either. And it's not that expensive either there's home tests that range from $15-30 and ones you can send off to a lab for less than $180

@Lori 😂 Idk why I'm like this 😫😫😂😂😂

@Missy 🤣🤣 i love it dont change

I guess I'd agree just to ease his mind. Then I'd take him to get glasses cause he must be blind. They're copies of him both of them.

Id give him the test but id be mad cuz he knows 100% im not a cheater.

Our son is my hubbies twin! And our daughter has a ton of his families features and his eyes. I would be so mad.

Give it to him along with divorce papers cuz wtf my guy 😅🤣

My husband does a lot of jokes about his babies maybe coming out with black skin or blond hair/blue eyes (he’s Arabic, I’m White and brune and dark eyes) he doesn’t mean it obviously but I do think sometimes for the joke to offer him a paternity test as a unique birthday present 🤣🤣🤣 But if it was serious, I think I would understand in a way, because recently I have seen so many videos about adn tests revealing cheaters… and like criminals sometimes you can’t see anything but you discover you don’t really know the person you are with. I would not be happy to be suspected but I can understand a doubt « just in case »

I’d have 0 issues. Mothers can always be 100% sure that their child is theirs but men can’t have the same certainty. If he questions it then there is probably deeper issues in the relationship but if my husband asked, I’d do it without hesitation and I wouldn’t even be mad. I don’t really understand why people are saying they’d be furious and get divorced 🤷‍♀️

Its a waste of money but if he wants it, I have nothing to hide so fine. But I'd be pissed about wasting the money

@Mama A “certainty” is cop out for a deeper issue as you stated & I’m sure like myself many people literally planned their baby and this would be a sign of lack of trust & respect which equates to a nonviable relationship imo because I truly don’t know the man I thought I did but he’ll get his piece of mind with a dna test and I’ll get mine with a divorce

I told my husband straight up that once our daughter is born we can do paternity if he wants. I know who I have been with for both children and have no worries. Won’t hurt my feelings at all

I’d be utterly heartbroken and lose all respect for him for doubting me at all.

I would say yes and be mad, but truthfully I think that paternity tests should be a normal part of our society, almost like if a man is a signing a birth certificate then a paternity test would take place, and after the results are shown the man can still sign even if the child isn't his, but it's just consenting to that information. I know it's crazy from the woman's perspective but you know, if you've had sex with two or more men within a kind of broad window it could very well not be the baby of the man you think. And with that every decision about the baby that comes after that is changed. I don't think it's fair to anyone involved to not have that information.

I would definitely accept and be upset. Then after the test was confirmed, we'd need to sit down and have a deep convo about where that level of distrust is stemming from

100% he's thinking the baby momma is cheating or he's cheating

I would laugh. And then rule with a self-righteous fist. In honesty, I almost expected him to ask with our second. We did IVF for male factor infertility after seven years of trying to have our first and our second one was a spontaneous conception two years later. He’s never even made a joke about paternity, and our son came out, looking like his miniature.

I’d give him the test but he would be dead to me from that point on

@Robyn, it's not about you. It's about the fathers.

I’d be fine with it . If I know I didn’t cheat I want them to feel dumb when it comes back their the dad .

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I actually brought it up and said we could if he wanted to - because I’m 100% sure so he can be too and I don’t have anything to hide. He didn’t end up doing it we’ve never had any doubts or any drama in that kind of way. I do like the idea of needing to for the birth certificate (as it’s a legal document) and if a father isn’t the biological father but wants on it he can sign a thing saying I know the DNA isn’t mine but that’s my child.

I won’t mind if my partner ask for a paternity test as long as it would help him. At the hospital, I told my husband, if for any reason, the baby needs to be away from me that he has to follow the baby. He eases my worry that he would watch over the baby to prevent a switch or medical error. So many horror stories of a switched baby or medical malpractice. Like that nurse who was killing NICU babies.

I’d be totally fine with it. I had a friend raise a little girl thinking it was his then his bm said it wasn’t one day that she got mad and turned out.. it wasn’t his.. my goodness after experiencing that through my friend I told myself I’d never care if I got asked. I know what I’ve done and I got nothing to hide. It’s just another test proving that this baby is 100% their baby. It would prevent switches that have happened in the past. My son took my husbands whole face, but I’d still be open to it as a newborn lol. If insurance doesn’t cover it then he’d pay for it of course, but it’s also not that expensive once they’re out the womb.

I’d be absolutely furious considering my husband is the only man I’ve been with since I was 17 AND our daughter came out looking like a mini version of him! I’d be devastated and I don’t think our marriage would last much longer if he asked that!

My husband had doubts with our last child, I had a child previous relationship. Then we tried for years and nothing happened we got told he couldn’t have children then suddenly I fell pregnant, 6months pp it happened again. He says he was joking when he said he was going to do one but I hit the roof. I said fine do one and then don’t expect me to talk to you afterwards when the proof comes back! He told me he was joking but if he wanted to he wouldn’t tell me and have the results sent to his dads. I said if I ever find out he’s gone behind my back I’d leave. I know the children are his. But I can understand why he’d think not but i wouldn’t stand for him going being my back. I’d rather he be honest

In my particular situation, I wouldn't be mad. We did IVF to conceive our daughter, so if he suspected the lab made a fucked up and he needed reassurance, I'd be all for it. But if we had conceived naturally, I'd be mad and would seriously consider divorce. If he was asking for a paternity test, it would because he assumes the baby isn't his. That I fucked up and cheated on him. It means he doesn't trust me. A healthy marriage is built on trust, no trust, no marriage.