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My daughters teacher told me in November that she wasn’t playing with any other children, just on her own. Her teacher then got one of the loud girls to do activities with her and honestly, it helped so much! Her teacher said she’s formed a group of friends (5 girls, they all play together) and said she’s very loud now. It would be worth you speaking to your son’s teacher and voicing your concerns. I know how upsetting it can be finding out your child has no friends 😣❤️
I had the same issue - She even got invited to party just like yours and no one played with her. After the party I reached out the nursery to see what the dynamic is & they have started to make more of an effort to get her involved. My hope is that she has a fresh start at school
Thanks all, I spoke with his key worker last week and the party happened after that. She said she was going to observe how he is and then get back to me in a couple of weeks but I just feel so uneasy, he’s 1 of 3 POCs and had someone be racist to him the first term. I dunno if I should just move nurseries or I’m overthinking. The staff seem okay but the other parents, most of them are standoffish with just a couple who are friendly and say hi. Or whether I should just persevere here and push for more help in socialising him
I’m just thinking and realising it’s been nearly 7 months here and they didn’t pick up on and act on this themselves and just left him to it, he was slightly better before and now he’s started to become less confident since Feb. Do I want this to be his experience before he starts school in September
This is what really annoyed me - if I hadn’t gone to the party I would of never known. Why am I pulling it up. My daughter is a minority also but at 3/4 it’s so young this would be on the parents if it was a race issue.
What does he say about nursery ? Is he still excited to go ?
Yeah exactly it worries me. Yeah definitely a parent/family thing, kids are taught racism unfortunately especially at this age. He likes going to nursery but I think that’s just because it’s somewhere for him to go and play. He only goes mornings and the past month or two, he has massive meltdowns when he comes home. He doesn’t tell me much either so I don’t have much idea what goes on apart from what the teachers say
At least he like going - my daughter hated it for a while ! That is probably a better indication. It makes me nervous for school but also ready to change it up for her
The nursery should be helping with this. They should be encouraging playing together especially if they have noticed this. Maybe ask some of the mum's at pick up time if they want to go to a local park for a little playdate etc x
Aww bless him 🥺, you should speak to the staff and express your concerns, get them to help him socialise with other kids. Both my LO are at preschool and play on their own, their key people noticed this and made a target plan for them for socialising. They do small group activities to get my LO talking to other kids, even walking them to other kids encouraging them to join in. My son walked up to a group of the other kids and sat with them ! Which is wild !🥹 My little girl is still getting there bless her 😅 Definitely** have a chat with staff, they should’ve recognised it already and made socialising one of his targets x