Fighting in school

I will always tell my children they are allowed to defend themselves. Even if that results in them being suspended. I wouldn’t be mad at all if they got suspended for defending themselves.

Yeah my child will grow up knowing how to defend himself, I'll never condone violance however if someone is picking on him and gets physical he's 100000% allowed to floor them😅

I'm no advocate for violence but always defend yourself if you can't see a safe adult or get to safety. This policy is misguided and the insemination of the words may be suspended would be better as this has to be determined case by case. However the hypocrisy behind this notion is that the school is advocating violence in any situation as a response. Though the law says I can use reasonable force to defend myself.....I'd be the mom annoying the governors, protesting at the school gates, informing every media outlet possible. As long as my child didn't throw the first blow they can tag me in to fight their corner unapologetically and all other discussions will be had behind closed doors. In this day and age I have no idea if a child has a weapon or not.

I told my kid to fight back any day and if they got in the situation I'd hire an attorney 🥰

Yeah I’ve been called into meetings multiple times for my daughter defending herself. She always ended up with worse consequences than the actual racist bullies. U bet I didn’t sit there and let no teacher or headteacher talk shit around me, I ended up homeschooling her after that. It causes a damaging effect after a while.

Fight back. Take your kid fun places while on suspension 😊

I think I'd tell them to try to get out of there first and if they can't, then defend themselves.

We’ll go get ice cream while they’re suspended

Nope. My kids can defend themselves, if it came to it. There would be no suspension.

My daughter will grow up knowing not to start a fight but she sure as hell can and will finish one. Too many kids scared to fight back for fear of punishment. I’d take my daughter for icecream for punching her bully back 🤷🏼‍♀️

Tell them to fight back. They'll be disciplined at school but rewarded at home.

My son is autistic. I tell him not to hit back as he will get into a heightened state and not stop. Also when he was younger and he did hit back it wouldn’t matter if they were younger, bigger or a girl.

I always tell my kids we don’t start fights but we finish them. Meaning if someone hits you then you make them regret it by defending yourself. But don’t hit people who don’t put their hands on you. That said if they get suspended for self defense then they will just be on “vacation” for however long they are on suspension

I thought this was a normal policy, I got suspended for defending myself before, too. Always okay to defend yourself, and my kids are taught the same, even though they don't do public school.

I believe its a stupid consequence to let yourself get beat up or suspended for self defense. As a parent im telling my kid to fight back and i deal with principal/school administrators. This was also a thing when i was in high school and i thought it was absolutely stupid.

My brother was in this situation in school (and this would have been early 00s). My dad complained and the principal cited a "zero tolerance policy." My dad was like OK so if I jump over this desk and try to punch you in the face we're both going to jail? The principal was like.... alright we'll rescind the suspension 😂. My dad didn't eff around.

Sad story: I was school security at a high school. A girl literally beat the shit out of another girl and the girl didn’t throw one punch didn’t even defend herself at all and she got suspended too. Because the said “we have a no tolerance for violence policy” I told her if I was her mom I’d be raising all sorts of hell at the school.

I don't agree with that policy, I would always teach my son to defend himself and I would tell him he did the right thing even if he got suspended. Teaching him to be a pussy and run to a teacher won't work in the real world and I don't want him to grow into a man not knowing what to do if someone is a threat to him or his family when older

This happened to my brother when he had first started secondary school. This girl would continuously ridicule him and say nasty things to him and hit him and he would never do anything back because he’s just not that type of person and also because he’s a girl and he has respect for girls. This went on for months and in the end he had enough no one was doing anything about it so one day when she hit him he hit her back. He got suspended and the girl didn’t. She ran to the teachers acting all upset about how he really hurt her and no one wanted to listen to my brother. My parents had to have multiple meetings with the school and chose to keep him out until they fixed the problem

I will never be upset with my son for defending himself. The school can do whatever their policies say but I will make sure his piece is said and heard.

School can say and do what they want. But know if my kid gets hit I’d expect him to hit back. Situations like this can escalate quickly. And if a child doesn’t defend themselves it makes them an easy target.

He will have his support at home and next day I will be at school

From my experience, the policy has always been if you’re involved in a physical altercation, no matter what your role was, you will be punished/suspended. I got in a fight in high school 15 years ago (some girl punched me in between classes so I defended myself) and I got suspended, even though there was tons of faculty to back up that I was defending myself. They tried to suspend me for a week, as that was the policy and my mom negotiated it down to two days because she thought it was ridiculous that I would get the same level of punishment.