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Would maybe add if baby becomes unsettled we ask for her to be handed back so we can soothe her, something along those lines? Honestly with the hormones going crazy it was painful to hear the cries like my brain went in to chaos 😅
This doesn’t sound like it’s getting sent to friends and family, it sounds like it’s to random people who you don’t know 😂 can’t you just say this when they arrive 😂😂😂
Get rid of the "please" people will take it as a suggestion. You're forgetting: handwashing No smoking No taking baby from parents w/o permission No drop in visits, must call xhours ahead Don't know who "willow " is, but if it's a pet handwashing after is a must
@Chelsie yeah totally, would rather take that pressure off myself on the day though 🤷♀️
@Melanie I disagree with this. You have to be blunt with a lot of people these days!
I’m going to also be asking people not to wear perfumes when visiting as well x
Maybe lose the af if being sent to anyone slightly older they might not get it if you’re sending to parents and things. Or like chelsie said just say it when they get there or sit down with them before baby arrives🤷🏽♀️I understand exactly where you’re coming from but I’d feel a bit offended if a family member sent this to me because I’d hope they can trust me to not do these things and also just tell me to my face. It may just be me but it may put people off from coming over
@Lottie yeah I agree!! To me it may just need to be worded differently. If I sent something like this to my family I think it would start a war so I just by nature overthink everything I say to them. That doesn’t mean this is wrong OP. My family is just toxic lmao
@Melanie gotcha! 😅
@Elena I love this. I think it’s a great idea. Give people the expectation before hand and let them know that it is expected of everyone and not just them. My mother in law was so hurt when I said no kissing the baby. She thought I was attacking her personally. This would help them know that it is the expectation for everyone
@Elena that might be how you feel but a lot of people don’t want dirty mouths kissing their brand new babies
MIL ignored and kissed baby anyway and covered him in lipstick despite us saying no kisses, OH had sent a message. You are better off telling them face to face and being firm so they know you're very serious.
@Elena some people don’t want tens of people holding their brand new baby and that’s okay. Everyone has their own rules and desires!
@Elena this is where we disagree. No one is entitled to touch my baby unless I say, other than myself and the baby’s father (my husband). They should be coming round to offer you support as a new mum. Do the washing up, fold some laundry, load the freezer with easy cook meals, take the dog for a walk if needed, do something helpful and useful. IF the new parents want the guests to cuddle the baby then absolutely they can, but that isn’t the ONLY point of coming round. Grandparents have no rights.
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I think it’s a great idea. I wish I had done this before as some people are literally clueless when it comes to babies, especially the older generation. The amount of times I’ve had to tell my mum/MIL/aunties not to kiss my baby is unreal. I also think that by sending this message out it takes some pressure off you having to tell every person the same thing over and over again
@Elena we can agree to disagree. My village would gladly come and do the jobs for me…!
@Lottie everything you are saying is spot on. My mom was good about that but what my in laws came to visit when my daughter was less than 2 weeks old they wanted to go out to a meseum that was 40 minutes away. 😫😫
@Sarah thank you. I’m all about support etc but only when it’s helpful and considerate to the woman and her baby. She’s likely been through a lot, even if the birth was ‘easy’, it’s still a lot! ♥️♥️
Be firm with people, we sent messages out with our daughter and people still didn’t listen to us, my partners family done the main thing I didn’t want them too (kiss baby) she was 2 weeks old and was middle of winter, I just had to be firm tell them straight they didn’t like the bluntness but end of the day it’s your baby and need to follow your rules xx
I would maybe get rid of the unsolicited advice one. It comes off a little rude. Although I do understand where you’re coming from