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@Ana he's 21 months. I definitely feel so much love for him and very proud of every milestone but sometimes I wonder if it should feel like something more or something different
Your bond with your baby is your bond not every mother is super loving and that’s fine you don’t have to smother your baby I had that feeling for a little while to granted my baby isn’t as old as yours but the first time I held him I felt the same way like numb and wow he’s really mine ( I did just get pain meds a lot of them tho so idk if that could be why) but yeah do be to hard on yourself your bond is what it is don’t beat yourself up if your not like every other mother smothering their child
Is normal; I didn’t felt the instant connection until my son was around 1.5 year old. It varies from mommy to mommy and you should not feel bad. Keep caring for your kiddo and slowly you’ll feel it one day and it’ll be really beautiful, trust the process
How old is your baby? I used to feel like that too, for the first 3 months. Then he started to sleep longer throughout the night and his wake windows became longer and I had more time to eat, sleep, take a little more care of myself. He started to do a fake cough, screeching, and smiling and it just resonated with me that I had a beautiful baby capable of amazing things and it's my son. It helped me look forward to have more of him and see what else he was going to learn and I just felt more and more love for him.