Does not caring if your partner watches porn make you feel superior to those who care about it?

No I get why people care tbh, I watch it myself so I'd be out of order to say he can't lol, although sometimes it makes me insecure 🤣 I've noticed that aswell tho, everyone has different boundaries, if I feel insecure we just watch it together x

I’ve seen so many comments calling people controlling and insecure for not liking porn. Utter ridiculous

I would not care if I had a partner and they watched porn. However that doesn’t disregard someone else’s feelings and if another person is upset by their partner watching porn then. That Is completely normal x

I do personally find it very odd when people have an issue with their partner watching it x

No it’s nothing to do with superiority, it’s just strong feelings. If you don’t care and you feel that way most of the time you’re making it about yourself when in reality it’s only about the woman and her partner. I see more women who don’t care saying those things about women who do 🤷🏻‍♀️ That’s not to say someone who cares has never said those things but it will be more from a place of if their partner did watch it, that’s how they would feel.

I came from a super toxic relationship so when my husband watches porn I just thank god he isn’t cheating when I’m too tired to do anything like my ex did. I do think the man needs to respect his woman and if she’s insecure or uncomfortable with it he needs to stop. I got super insecure after I gave birth so my husband stopped which I was very grateful for

I don’t really feel superior but I do think it’s weird that people actually consider it cheating. But I can understand why they do. I don’t watch porn but I wouldn’t care if my man did🤷🏾‍♀️ he’s never gonna meet those ladies 😂😂 plus it’s human instinct to be horny and it’s also human nature to act on it. If he was PAYING for porn/sexual pics then i was actually be disgusted and leave. Obviously if he was watching it too much then id be concerned.

Anytime I hear about people watching porn or looking at Instagram “models” while in a relationship, I feel bad for their partner. Regardless of how they feel about it, everyone deserves the respect to be the sole source of sexual satisfaction for their partner when in a monogamous relationship. An argument I see a lot is “Well he’s never going to meet them in real life”, so would you be okay with your partner developing an emotional connection with someone online if they had no intention of meeting in person? Or is porn different because it’s sexual and self control isn’t a common skill?

I never use to care until it became an addiction to him and he started to go beyond porn eg: reading sexual tinder profiles of other woman, downloading these apps and then physically cheating. Porn addiction is a real thing,obviously not the case for all but I was shocked I didn't see any signs.

@Jenna if my partner had an emotional connection with a woman then I wouldn’t be okay with that. & if he had an emotional connection to a porn worker, then I would be WEIRDED tf out. I agree self control is needed, and I’m a born again Christian so I actually don’t agree with porn at all anymore BUT back when I was younger I didn’t care. I can’t always be there to sexually satisfy my man so I don’t mind if he watches it here or there. I’d say once every few months, anything more than that would be concerning

I was trying to scroll to the comments and accidentally hit "I care", I don't. I blame bing up since 3:30 due to baby kicking so much. I need sleep....

I think it is strange when people consider it cheating or that their partner should only have eyes for them. I just believe that is completely impossible. We are all human beings and sexuality is natural, that doesn’t turn off completely because we have a partner. It can be extremely toxic to expect and believe your partner can satisfy every single need, desire, fantasy, connection that we need. That’s a huge and unrealistic pressure and expectation to have on one person

I used to care when I was younger but now I see it in a different light, and if it was a problem say an addiction or they were watching it every night I’d be annoyed of course! Because it can affect sex life and relationships, but in hindsight if it’s done in a healthy way it’s not harmful at all. Some ladies see it as cheating because they’re looking at other women but if you actually discuss it with a man they just watch it as a tool to release… they don’t have a crush on the woman in the video 9/10 times they won’t even remember them a week later. I don’t think it means they’re insecure about it if they don’t want them watching it though, it’s all about personal experiences with it and boundaries. If both parties in the relationship agree that they’d prefer if their partner didn’t watch it then there’s no issue!

I think it’s incredibly toxic to look at porn in a monogamous relationship. The point of the relationship is for 2 people. Or 2 plus others for my partner to jerk off too. Hell no.

For me personally I couldn’t care less, and I do find it interesting that some people class it as cheating. Only thing I wouldn’t be happy about is if he started paying for it lol

It’s cheating plain and simple. I never thought of it if that way until recently but your partner is legit getting off to another person or multiples.. how in anyway unless you’re in a poly relationship is that okay?! It’s opening the door for more.. and possible physical cheating

@Frayere I truly never cared and never thought of it as cheating. But when my partner says he’d never cheat on me but is watching porn and having an orgasm to another man or women.. and continues to watch that same type of porn or that same person ( how isn’t it cheating) he’s formed an emotional virtual relationship if you will. May not be live but it for sure opens the door to doing so.

@Lena I’d suggest Polly and not monogamous! 😁 that’s more realistic

@Charnese exactly… it just opens doors. I guess I sound crazy but I’ve dealt with it too much.

It doesn’t make me feel superior. Personally I think it’s a weird thing to care about because I don’t, but I’m sure there’s things I care about that others would say is weird also. Porn is fun 🤷‍♀️ we both watch it independently. And we have a great sex life.

I don’t feel superior over those who don’t care. I personally wouldn’t like it if my husband watched it, I’m not insecure & I do think it’s cheating. I understand that my husband wouldn’t know these women or anything but I just don’t think it would be right of him to watch when he has me, he doesn’t need to look at anyone else & get off on it but that’s just how I feel about it, either way he doesn’t like or watch porn at all & I don’t either. I also don’t care if other people are ok with their partner watching porn or not it’s not my relationship or my business, I find it odd that people care at all what people are/aren’t comfortable with in other peoples relationships

Damn I accidentally click on the wrong one I meant to put NO. This is why I don't need to be on my phone in the middle of the night LOL.

I think it’s only an issue when they are depriving their partner of emotional or sexual intimacy or if they prioritise that over the physical act itself

I don’t feel superior and everyone’s relationship is unique to them in terms of preferences and boundaries, but I do think it comes from a place of insecurity if you don’t want your partner to ever be turned on by anyone else. It’s not realistic imo, and people who don’t “let” their partners wank, even without porn are definitely controlling.

From the post on here, peanut is full of pick me women who do think they are better when they are supportive of their partner watching porn. Just my observations though. I stopped commenting on those posts in 2023 because it's exhausting.

@BoyMom sooo why not just let him take sexy videos and pics of you to beat off too when you’re not in the mood for sex?? … pff sounds like your man reallly just enjoys fantasizing and touching himself to other women and definitely comparing you.

Actually I feel superior that my man DOESNT watch porn and instead beats off to my sexy videos and pictures 😌 he has a whole album full of me. yeah the ultimate superior .. sorry.

@Olivia err no. I have nothing against polyamory but it’s not for me. My husband and I are monogamous and have been for our entire 10 year relationship. We watch porn every now and then and I think it’s completely normal 🤷‍♀️ that’s fine if you or others don’t but please don’t call us poly when you don’t know us at all and when we certainly are not.

Honestly Id never date a man who watches porn… its not cheating to me tho just…odd. My partner never does & neither have my past S/O…Sexual discipline is a big thing to the men Ive dated so Im used to seeing men who just don’t do it. To me its just odd because I don’t watch it…my man is my porn??? I think many men lack discipline for SELF has nothing to do w/ a woman. There are plenty men who can’t even get it up unless they genuinely have feelings for you.

@Tori LMAOOOO I know thats right Tori 😭😭

I wouldn’t want my husband watching it, when he has a wife at home to fulfill all his sexual needs and desires. A man needs discipline.

This is interesting to see such back and forth responses. With my last relationship I did care a lot. But I didn’t trust my partner and I was right not to. He cheated a lot. The relationship was awful. But with my husband now I don’t care at all. We both watch it. And I trust him so much. And he trusts me. I wasn’t like that right away though. We built the trust first and then after a while I no longer cared about it because we fully trust each other

Superior? No. More secure in myself? Yes.

@Natasha aisha holy shit lol

It always seems like the opposite to me. That those who view porn as cheating think they are superior. Just read the comments here 🤢

I don't care if my partner watches it as I watch it, too. Sometimes. We watch it together at times, but we do talk about what we see in the porn videos, and it helps with our sex life.

@Tori I’m single lol and when I did have a man he told me he couldn’t even get turned on by other women after having sexual relations with me. And yes he would watch our old videos

I’m someone who isn’t really bothered about my partner watching porn. As long as I’m not there & don’t know when he’s watching then that’s fine and he knows that. Everyone has boundaries, everyone has different feelings & that’s okay! I can see both sides of the argument and both are completely valid. But, we all feel how we feel, so I think it needs to be left at that x

no i don’t feel superior & i say to each their own but i too struggle to understand why its such a problem. it’s a random person on a random website there is absolutely nothing personal about it.

i get so confused why people would rather their partner subscribe to onlyfans than watch pornstars

I personally not want my partner waching born I think its cheating as he'd be organising over another womans body and I don't think that's okey and he is okey with this I don't cear if he wanks it's his body but I wouldn't be okey with doing it over another woman I don't feel superior to people who do in relationships everyone has different boundaries it's just important to be with somebody who respect and agrees with thos boundaries

No I don’t because before I deconstructed my religous up bring I was someone who cared deeply. I don’t feel better than anyone else because I’ve been on both spectrums. Even being okay with it I think everyone should have boundaries around it.

No I just don’t understand it and find it odd that they think their partners have to listen to them

I’m not superior and don’t feel that way. There are far more issues that are more important to care about than that. I watch porn and have regularly throughout my life so for me to care whether my spouse watches it or not, I’d be a hypocrite. I never saw the big deal in watching it There are circumstances where I can see someone being bothered by their spouse watching it

So I'm asexual. The reality in our relationship is that while my husband is an excellent father and husband, he has needs I can't always match or would be exhausted trying to match. Instead of tiring myself out I don't care that he watches porn. He has needs too. I liken it to a hobby, like sports. I'm not a sports fan but I'll still join in and shout and cheer for your home team, I'll get into it and enjoy it even, I just probably won't ever be as passionate about it. Porn helps him meet a need and gives me a break. We have a great relationship so it seems to work. 🤷 I think porn only becomes a problem when it affects your relationship negatively.

@Jenna most of the times it’s probably because they are not sexually satisfied in their relationship

Watching porn is sinful and that’s the only reason it bothers me. In my eyes a man who does not watch porn is superior to one who does and that’s the extent of my own feelings about it.

@Haley agreed. So many of the comments here show that those who have issues with porn believe them to be superior. One even admits to it 🤢

I don’t think anyone should consume it personally its horrible for your brain-you can look up brain scans and studies neurologists have done and they were able to compare your brain on porn to your brain on heroin and porn will cause more harm to your brain at faster rates. Your brain was never meant to facilitate it and your want of dopamine will push you to consume more vulgar content in higher quantities to be able to keep up with the dopamine high which is how the addictions come into play. This will damage the natural dopamine reward system and make you more unresponsive to natural forms of pleasure like being with a real person. This is why if you compare porn from when it first started to now its way more violent and vulgar because the porn industry understands they need to satisfy that tolerance build up and the height of dopamine people are looking for.

I care if my husband watched porn because it is hurtful to me and makes me feel insecure. I don't feel superior to anyone if they feel differently. I really don't care what other people do within their marriages. I do however agree with @Tiara because it does cause a lot of psychological damage.