Weird, not weird question?!

Also if it’s true, why does it matter that much? 😁

Yea I think the standard is using a couple months salary? I didn’t want an expensive ring tho cuz I could spend all that money on coffee instead hehe

True but we still only spent about $500 on mine which I know people thought was cheap. Then recently had it resetted with my daughter's birthstone so that was maybe another $1,000.

I refused to let my now husband spend that much on an engagement ring. My ring was less than $200 and I love it.

Ya most people I know spent a couple thousand on a ring. No idea why it’s different in different places though 🤷🏼‍♀️ haven’t thought about it lol.

I think diamond companies had some pretty successful marketing back in the day at some point that convinced a lot of people they needed diamond engagement rings - and mined diamonds are expensive. But I would say it’s pretty common in the US, yeah. Mine was well over 1k.

I have seen a few posts on this app where they are like they want $1000 ring minimum and it’s just so stupid. The De Beers family just had really good marketing and that they could control the price of diamonds cuz they own most the diamond mines and a lot of Americans love capitalism and keeping up with the Jones’ unfortunately

My engagement ring was very expensive. But to me it’s my most important thing I own. I love jewelry in general and my engagement ring means the world to me.

wait i had no idea it was so different in europe! $100-150??? i don’t even know if they sell engagement rings here for that price.

I think it depends on where exactly you are based and who you surround yourself with. I worked in the luxury jewellery business for many years and the standard rate in both Europe and the US is 3 month’s salary.

It’s very common here in the US to spend a couple months salary on an engagement ring sometimes more. I think as long as it’s affordable for whomever is purchasing the ring it should be ok.

I know people that spent 6-8k on a ring

My husband 1500 and he didn’t have to!

These rings often become family heirlooms. My engagement ring was my grandmother's engagement ring. No clue how much it cost originally, but my husband had to reset and resize it, so that cost him about $400

Google says you're vastly underselling how much the average person spends on an engagement ring in the EU. AI Overview: In the European Union, the average cost for an engagement ring is around €2,300 to €2,500, with prices varying significantly by country.  Here's a more detailed breakdown: Average Range: The average price for an engagement ring in the EU is roughly €2,300 to €2,500.  Country Variations: Germany: Averages around €1,000.  Austria: Slightly less than the EU average.  Switzerland: Slightly more than the EU average.  Belgium: Typically ranges between €2,500 and €5,000.  Ireland: The average cost is €4,500, but in 2022, couples spent €2312 on average.

I would say the argument about all Europeans being OK with cheap rings is false.

It depends on where you're from. In my area no one would spend that much on a ring.

@Raqi that’s not true😂 unless you actually got so money. Also it says European Union, which is not the whole Europe. I personally would rather use the money to travel.

@Aggs “Unlike in the U.S., where the “three months’ salary rule” is often marketed, Europeans tend to focus more on personal budgets and preferences rather than a fixed spending rule.”

OP the same could be said about America. Some people spend the money, some don’t. I’m sure some people have strong beliefs on this, rightfully so. But I’m sure a lot of the time it comes down to income.

I don't know anyone with money, and it sounds like you don't either! Which is fine! But just because we don't, doesn't mean that everyone spends the same way. I know engagement traditions vary widely. You referenced Europe, not a specific country, so I looked up the EU. Is there a specific country you're talking about?

I always see people say they’d rather spend that money on a house or a car or a vacation, but typically the people spending 20k on an engagement ring can do both. They aren’t choosing between a ring and a vacation they’re just doing both.

@Allexys exactly

@Brittany but the point is that men are pressured in paying a lot for a ring and women don’t like the ring unless is expensive. That’s what I got from experiences of some americans on internet, mostly tiktok videos. And I’m sure this happens in couples where money is a bit of a problem. But the “culture” is still there no matter the income.

It is a rule marketed in the Europe too. It purely depends on the individual and the location. I think you grossly underestimate the amount people spend. I have first-hand experience, and it’s a lot more than the google averages provided above. It’s okay if you don’t care for expensive jewellery but many people do and that’s okay too ☺️

I didn’t pressure my husband to spend any certain dollar amount. And I’m American.

My husband and I spent less than $250 on all of our rings.

@Aggs I have first hand experience (sort of lol) as well. I worked in the bridal industry for 7 years. Saw rings allllll across the board. Not everyone in America spends thousands of dollars on a ring, some do, some don’t. And if a man gets pressured to spend beyond his means that’s his own problem 😂

i wouldn’t base your judgements on tiktok videos…. most of those people are wackadoos. i have friends that wanted expensive fancy rings and i have friends that wanted simple more affordable rings and no one pressured anyone. i think like others said its a personal preference and its fine either way.

@Raqi but the culture is for low incomes people as well. So the 3 salary rule is hard for someone that salary is low. I was definitely not targeting people with money. Also in Europe nobody cares how much an engagement ring is. If you have money, get a 10k ring, fine, if you get a $100 ring it’s still fine. Nobody really makes a fuss. I was curious if the “rumour “ of americans expecting expensive rings is real, because in Europe we don’t expect expensive ones. We don’t care. I’ve never heard anyone complain.

My husband spent 21k on my engagement ring. And it was worth every penny.

wait omg i have so many questions lol i need to message you @Brittany

@Allexys i’m not talking about people that have money.

A ring that I’ll wear every day for the rest of the time we’re together I wanted a nice rock lol so I think between his and my 2 rings (engagement and band) he spent about $3k. But I hired my dress, it was worth $3k but I hired for $600 so saved there lol. I’m not wearing my dress ever again. The ring will be on every day. That’s my logic anyway 😂

@MIA❤️‍🔥 feel free!

@Brittany couldn’t agree more. It really depends on the person, wherever you are. Heavy on that last part too. I was going to say the same thing 😅

I have many cousins who live with a lower income whose rings weren’t expensive. Never heard them complain 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Aggs again, I am not talking for people that have money. As far as I know in US women expect expensive rings even though their partner has a low salary. Not everyone of course.

Ok so if you’re even saying it’s not everyone, I don’t understand the point you’re trying to make? Also, if a woman is putting pressure on her fiancé to spend a ridiculous amount of money on a ring, when she clearly knows it’s not possible/smart/financially logical, that’s not an American problem, that’s a selfish person problem lol.

@Aggs right lol! Like don’t be dumb 😂

OP why are you grouping all European people together? 🥴 I’m European and my casual daily jewellery is worth over 10k alone. Everyone is different. Some people care. Some people don’t. Some people expect big rings. Some people don’t. Many European women also expect expensive rings when they’re out of budget. 🤷‍♀️

English is my second language, I told my husband about the rule. He agreed right away to three months celery rule with a big smile. So I can’t wait.

@Brittany i’m talking in general. Of course people with money will buy expensive rings, it’s no doubt about it.

@Aggs once again, I was talking about the american’s “3 months salary rule”. In no european country that’s not a real thing. It is not a tradition. Of course there’s people in Europe that want expensive engagement rings. We are not talking about your casual daily jewellery, we are talking about women’s expectations as in a tradition or culture. Europeans don’t have this thing, while americans do.

@MIA❤️‍🔥 any ring can be an engagement ring though, ya know?

@Aggs i feel you on this, I typically avoid generalizing, but sometimes there is a "majority rules." Idk about this case though, I haven't seen any stats about it lol.

My husband did spend over $1000 on my engagement ring but I did not expect or demand that. He spent what he could afford and was very thoughtful for why he chose the type of ring he did. I purchased his wedding band for him and my wedding band belonged to my grandmother so we only paid to have that restored to like-new. We also paid to have insurance on all the rings in case they are lost/stolen or need to be fixed for some reason.

yes that’s true but there’s usually a section specifically for engagement rings @Evelyn

Expensive engagement ring is how our great and grandmothers had enough money to escape marriages. Idk bout yall countries but women couldn't work and/or have bank accounts. A box full of jewelry was a must to get money. I personally didn't care. Minimalism was my thing. Husband dropped 3k on my ring without even blinking

It’s a very common tradition practiced in the UK, and less common but still existing in other European countries. From my recollection it was popularised by De Beers (feel free to fact check me on this), which operates globally and spread the message accordingly. Other luxury houses followed the footsteps and spread the message more. To say all Europeans don’t know or follow this is factually incorrect. Of course everyone does as they will, and many people don’t care about the value, but that applies everywhere. There are many concepts which are strictly European vs American but this isn’t one of them. That’s the only point I was trying to make. No bad vibes lol.