If you were a single mom, and one of your friends got you a small gift for your bday what would you appreciate more?

Self care items would be her favorite nice body scrub, a satin scrunchie, and a nice candle maybe a face mask

I’m not a single mom but I second some self care items like facemasks, a candle, a scrunchie etc. but as a very busy momma myself, if someone figures out dinner for me I’m so happy. Like if my friend brought me a lasagna so I didn’t have to figure out supper, I’d be so happy. Or any food really that takes that burden off my plate. A tatertot casserole works too. Just buy a metal container that’s a throw away so there’s no need to worry about returning a dish! (Wash before filling with yummy food haha)

@Meghan thank you for that POV! I had appreciated it when my mom‘s bookclub all pitched in together and got me a hefty amount on a DoorDash gift card for me to use and it has saved me a lot when I was in the newborn trenches with my boyfriend. I just want her to feel appreciated, she doesn’t have much help and no family in town. Been debating on doing combination of both. Like a DoorDash gift card and her fave body scrub and a satin scrunchie (she’s a bartender and always has her hair up when she bartends so she always runs out of scrunchies 😂 it’s a running joke between us now)

I agree with @Meghan

I’m a single mum and tbh I would appreciate the gift card so I could spend it on something that I needed for myself/little one or door dash gift card for food! As much as self care items would be lovely I think she would appreciate the others more- I know I would! X

@Claire that’s what I was thinking! I’m a on the verge of being a single mom myself, and I would probably prefer a gift card for target or Walmart more than anything so I could use it on a rainy day when I need essentials for my LO or a DoorDash gift card for a night I’m mentally drained, and can’t afford take out

Door dash because if you got me Walmart/target imma spend it on the kids and I buy my own self care stuff, I just don't use it enough but with door dash I'll at least use it for me!! I also think like other treats away from home are super nice. Like a manicure gift card or something.

@Steffani oh for sure! When her son turned one year old and I was in my third trimester. I gave her a gift card to her favorite nail salon in town and in the card I told her I want her to make an appointment and I can watch her son while she go gets her nails done and have some time to herself. And she still talks about that this day! But right now I’m fighting really bad postpartum and I don’t think I would be able to offer that kind of a gift to her this go round but maybe later in life 😊

@Maddie totally fair to not further your own burden right now!!

@Steffani right and we talk almost religiously and she knows most of what I’m going through so I don’t think she expects that at all. I don’t think she expects anything but she deserves it! She’s killing up this whole Mom thing I’m so so proud of her

Can I say that any of those choices sound amazing and helpful

For my Bdays my gfs always get me - candles, perfume, makeup, self care or DIY products. Hubby gets me stuff like nail stuff, vouchers for massage/self care like eyebrow microblading, or handbags. If the BD takes the baby sometimes though sometimes my gfs just wanna go for drinks/dinner, dress up for the night and let out hair down. If she has someone to look after her lil maybe invite her out?

I’m a single mom. I would appreciate the door dash since I barely eat out because I have to save money. I think a target and Walmart gift card is good too. Self care items are good too but I barely even have time to shampoo sometimes😭

I think self care items and then I’d agree with Meghan, I’d make her dinner for her birthday! If you got her a gift card the likelihood is she’s going to use it to get stuff for her child (we all do it!) and probably doesn’t treat herself very often. I’d get self care stuff, throw in her favourite chocolate/snack and then make her dinner. Something simple but i bet she would really appreciate it x

Single mums struggle with the basics, so I would arrange extra hours of childcare during the weekends so she can do whatever she needs to do. I would be happy to look after her child a few hours every weekend, sort out some hours of a cleaning service for her, or like Meghan says, cook dinner for her once-twice a week. Maybe she needs a break and some adult company. I wouldn't focus on stuff unless it is something that would make her life easier.