WTF!!!

Maybe because they don’t have an escape route or they have the fear of losing their babies cuz of their manipulative narcissistic man Maybe they enjoy being home with their babies and are terrified of strangers looking after them while they have to work Many reasons why Don’t be so quick to judge if you haven’t lived that life

Aye props to you for not posting incognito lol

Oh but I have lived that life hunny. Just left a piece of shit after 10 years of getting my ass beat. So if anyone can talk, I absolutely can.

I just want to add that if you need resources to potentially leave check out the website findhelp.org

@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ it’s not about judging, it’s about saying things that need to be said. I understand some women are looking for “I’m sorry you have to deal with this”, or “ugh that’s so hard” but realistically, that is NOT helping them. Sure I don’t have this problem myself, but I’ve dealt with my narcissistic brother in law emotionally and mentally abusing my sister for years. I see what it does to women. I’m sure it’s unbearable to hear someone give a tough love type of response, but every woman going through it deserves so much better Sure, a soft, sympathetic response might be a temporary comfort but I feel like we as mothers have a duty to stand up and tell other mamas to do everything they can to GET OUT. Even if it is the hardest thing they ever have to do. And props to @Lyss for giving a resource link, hopefully it can help someone!❤️

Thank you!!!!!! It's not about judgement or anything like that, it's the truth. These situations are NOT love. They're not okay to stay in, they're not okay to raise children in, and you absolutely are just teaching them that this is what love looks like and what to accept and repeat in the future with their own partners. It's not about you anymore, once you have babies they are the ONLY thing that matter and you need to get tf out, for them.

@Renee telling someone to get out is easier than having the person to get out. It’s not so black n white

@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ of course it’s easier to tell someone to do something than it actually is to do it. No one said it is easy And absolutely nothing in this world is black and white. You can give examples all day of why it’s hard for a woman to remove herself and children from a toxic, harmful situation but that doesn’t change the fact that she needs to leave. I’m not meaning to sound insensitive, no one will leave until they are ready. I know this. But these situations are not the time to coddle someone’s feelings, especially when children are involved. It is up to US to do what’s best for ourselves and babies. As tough as it is, women need to be told they are strong enough to do it, not a bunch of women just commenting on posts feeling sorry for them. And if that makes me a bad person then I guess so be it🤷🏼‍♀️

@Renee right but when shelters only allow you to be there for 30 days, then what? Getting out and building a life for oneself and child(ren) takes longer than 30 days. Trauma from leaving and going into a shelter, healing from all of it takes time too. It’s easily said then done.

@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ I think that maybe you are focusing primarily on the women who have no family, no friends, no job, no money, etc. Yes, in that specific case, that is extremely hard. I’m sure would take planning and saving and finding the right resources to help, on top of the psychological load of being in a toxic situation. But you’re missing the entire point. Though it’s hard, it still CAN be done. That’s all I’m trying to say. By sitting there giving excuse after excuse is why women feel like they are not strong enough to go. Abusive/ narcissistic Men SPECIFICALLY make women believe they can’t leave, so that they don’t. Truthfully, when I originally read this post, I viewed it was more towards the women who stay out of “love” or “lack of self confidence” etc. Especially because I see that all the time and the posts I see here are “my husband says I’m lazy and never helps me and I just need to vent” type of post.

@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ I fear this post and my comments may have struck a nerve, and that was never the intent. Im not sure if it’s because of your own experiences or what but I still stand behind everything I said, because I know that everything I say, I say with all the love in the world. Good luck to you❤️

@Renee I just know people who were in very critical positions and situations and felt stuck and it’s fucked up that so many people are so quick to say “just leave” as if it’s that easy. It’s not.

My office mate is encouraging me to stay the solo road. Even though I’ve been with my man 17+ years and he’s not as horrible as some of these stories, she said “just because it’s the normal choice does not make it the right choice.” My parents don’t approve of him again not because he isn’t a good guy but because he doesn’t improve me. So I’ll wait until he can pull his weight, and until then I’ve got me and my incoming little one to take care of. It’ll happen or it won’t, but if that string in the web dies, I have other people offering me support.