Happy as a sahm

You have to just get up and do it tbh. I have - 6 year old I get ready for the bus every day by 8am, I have a 3 year old that is automatically hungry when he wakes up and then I have a 6 month old who cries usually when waking up. I’m also a college student SAHM. I’m with my kids 7-7pm every day. I started doing this thing where I play our different scenarios in my head based on which choice i would make .. for example: do i make breakfast from scratch or give cereal and then make lunch and dinner later. or do I do laundry before or after I take bath. get yourself up, take a shower first and then start your day. do you want to be on your phone or do you want to work out? do you want to work on your HW or be in the garden? we have limited amount of time daily and your day plays out based on the choices you make. also break your day up in time increments for EX: my routine is i get up at like 7am-7:70am get my 6 year old dressed and ready for the bus, I then get myself together

make breakfast by 10am and then I wait for my little one to wake up. I’ll have his bottle ready or solids ready by that time. do things to make it easy on yourself. it’s all about repetition

When I get in a rut like this I find that making sure my needs are met is so key. That means for me: a clean house, clean nice clothes and makeup, and staying active. If I wanna go thrifting, we go thrifting. If I wanna drive an hour to go on a hike, we go do the hike. Essentially just pretend that you have no schedule. Naps get fucked, that’s ok. Dinner is late, that’s ok. No bath tonight? Ok. Stay flexible and just let things happen as they come. Everything will be ok in the end, just try to enjoy the day as much as you can.

Try to go to the events at the library with your child to meet other moms

Hella caffeine. I feel like this every morning and then basically drink a bowl of coffee and fake it till you make it lol. My baby usually does something that puts a huge smile on my face and I remember I'm doing it for her. That keeps me going! It also helps that we're actively looking to move somewhere with more SAHM community.

Reach out, look for mum friends. Assess every single mum you bump into and if you can see yourself befriending her, then chat her up and look for an opportunity to do that, to exchange SM or numbers. If you are out and about at kids activities then I’m sure you’ll bump into other mums. I had to really put myself out there and step out of my comfort zone in order to NOT be lonely during this time that I’m a sahm. I used to be an introvert growing up. Being a mum has forced me to be more of an extrovert because motherhood with other mums, to have friends, is a life changer. I refuse to be a sahm w no mum friends to hang out with with, so I put myself out there in order to have some in my life. I’ve utilised peanut as well and made some friends on here too

Also- hobbies. In house hobbies, and something you attend weekly just for yourself, has brought balance into my life and fulfils me as a woman, for me. Look for a class you’d like to attend. Every single one of my friends has a hobby- kickboxing, photography group, bingo, poker, gym, Zumba, Pilates, trivia night, indoor rock climbing…. Mine is salsa I go dancing twice a week. Look for something for yourself