Feeling disconnected from my baby

Are you in UK? It sounds like you may be suffering with depression. If you are in the UK speak to your HV about how you are feeling as they can offer ways to help support you which is free up until your baby turns 1 years old

I’m nearly 6 months postpartum and I feel this. So hugs to you!! It took me until my baby was probably 4.5 months to feel like I could enjoy him. Deep breaths. It’s okay to feel this way. The best advice I can give is to talk to someone. I talked with my therapist a lot individually and my partner and I do couples therapy which we have both found to be incredibly helpful. Don’t be afraid to open up to your partner about your feelings. That is probably the best advice I can give. They are your team mate and unless you tell them even a little bit about what you’re feeling they likely don’t even realize it. Once I opened up to my partner (after countless nights of crying by myself) and let him know that I just didn’t feel happy, he was quick to offer support in anyway possible and honestly it has helped us to strengthen our bond. Having a baby is very much life changing and it takes a lot of trust and communication to keep things on the right path!!

I think I was around 4/5 PP when I finally felt like I "loved" my little boy. He's now 8 months and I love him but it sometimes feels like he isn't mine. I would recommend talking to someone and looking into getting some help, wether that be someone to talk to or even trying coffee mornings and stuff. You should try talking to your partner about how you feel if you haven't already, when you have a baby you're entire life changes, you change. Sometimes this is all you can focus on for a while xx

I feel like it happens to most mom not everyone…i experienced this. The minute my daughter was born the end of January 2024. ( i suffered through trauma prior to having her and my delivery was something I wasn’t prepared since I had her 2 weeks before she was due) I think realizing right away helped me, I’m no longer with my daughter’s father…my postpartum was really hard for me to just adjust…I wasn’t getting the support I needed from him emotionally and mentally..I had lots of emotions like will she love me if I do things wrong or right the same way….i did therapy and thats helped me a lot….i decided to go with a female just because it’s someone you can relate to what you have experienced, bonus if they happen to be a mom as well…. There will be men that will listen and try to help where you need it…don’t feel ashamed if you are overwhelmed and asking for help, that you need a break, or to just be out of the house for a few….this will pass, you’re doing what you can❤️