When do I start to feel like me again?
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@Elsie it really is :( I keep thinking of doing things for me but I just don’t know what x
I saw a post on TikTok which I’m going to start doing. Which said 10 minutes in the morning for a better 10 hours. This woman got up 10 minutes before her daughter was set to get up and just brushed her hair, teeth. Got changed and she said it changes her days completely! That 10 minutes might not be much but it’s a little treat to yourself to remind you that baby might be a priority but you need to be 100% so that you can put 100% into baby! DMs are open if you ever need a chat xx
I buy cluster lashes and do them myself they’re so much cheaper and look so good really gives me a little pick me up! The Doll beauty ones are so good. Also you have lovely hair ! At home try to put on a nice lil comfy but cute outfit that you feel nice in and also I find perfume makes me feel nice and it’s a low effort thing hope this helps your doing amazing!
@Olivia Keates nice idea. I didn't know it's a thing lol. But i give myself 20 mins. also recently started work and put bub into dc on the days I work so it's really busy for us. But I found waking up first and getting myself fully ready first is the way to go. Getting up together means you don't have any space.
For me it’s closer to 3 years
I could have written this myself 😫 I completely understand how you feel. I'm nearly 11 months post partum and suddenly it's hit me like a freight train. Since going back to work and seeing people with nice hair/makeup and then looking at myself with hair scraped back and no makeup on because I'm so tired, I've felt even worse. I just don't have any spare energy to do hair/makeup xx
I got myself back pretty early on. But that’s not relying on anyone else- purely me. As in I cut and dye my own hair (due for another cut actually, I do it every 2m and use the Brad mondo wolf cut tutorial) I laminate my own eyebrows I lift my own lashes, I do my own nails, I wear strip lashes and I buy my dresses on Shein, my heels on Shein (cheap and affordable but does the job) I do have to rely on Hubby sometimes to be able to grant me that time w the baby so I can focus on myself for a half an hr, an hr a day. 10mins in the morning is all I need to do my hair and some light makeup and put on something casual and cute for the day. Baby is either napping or in the middle of my bed (before rolling) or in his crib while I tend to myself. He’s really good at independent play though since birth I left on the floor lots, on the foam mat, his playgym and toys and some music and I tend to myself. Started seeing friends again around 3-4m pp, hubby stays home and looks after baby for a bit.
@Kellie I messaged xx
Hi Lucie, first of all sending you a lot of love right now! Secondly hope you can see that the way you are feeling is normal, as much as it sucks. Thirdly well done for speaking out about it! You honestly are beautiful in the photo you posted however if you’re not feeling good and want to do your makeup etc I’d agree with the tips on here - find childcare if you can whether in the family or nursery has free funding if you’re living in the right area for it - worth checking. As for finances, please check out CAP (Christians Against Poverty) courses they’re free as run by Christian charity. Cannot recommend more, it’s a free financial advice course, I did a quick google search and found 2 near you, Dereham Baptist Church, and network Norwich and Norfolk. You don’t have to be in debt for this, they’ll help you figure out a plan and might even find a way for you to afford those nice things you mentioned. Do make a conscious effort to start putting yourself first, letting your village help
Also I’m here if you want to chat more on your journey of self-discovery as a Mama. Afraid we’re too far away from each other to meet up though 😆 but happy to message anytime xx
@Nina I will message xx
@Cerys I wish I could do them! Maybe I’ll give them a go again…😂 but thank you so much I will try all that xx
@Rach it’s so so SO hard when you see everyone looking so put together :( always here if you need a chat xx
@Nina thank you so much for all of this! You’re so kind and it’s made a huge difference to my day just reading your comment so thank you 🥺 I’ll definitely have a look into CAP too as I’ve never heard of it! Xx
I'm nearly 4 years and I'm only just feeling like I'm able to grasp me again! It's so easy to loose yourself! I've just started going to a few classes a week at my local gym and it makes me feel so much better about myself when I'm there!