feeling like i failed.

Mine is 2.5 and he’s like that too😭I have no idea what to do. I’m trying to nurse my infant too while trying to correct him which sucks bc I can’t just get up and deal with everything as it’s happening

it’s just so frustrating because like what else do we do.

I found the book "No-Drama Discipline" to be very useful, especially in explaining the behavior of young children and how to get through to them at an early age. Basically, it starts out with a lot of distraction as they don't really respond to reasoning or lecture. As they get older, you can start to engage their higher thinking brain and reason with them, talk them through their emotions and why they shouldn't do certain things, and the more they do it, the more their brains will wire to do it themselves, naturally. That's only a small part of it really, but it is definitely worth a read if you are struggling with discipline.

My cousin is 3 and she can be like this sometimes. I was with her when my nan was babysitting her and she wouldn’t share with my daughter, was taking toys off of her and rubbing it in her face that she had them and not being kind. I gave her multiple chances and said if you don’t play nicely you will be going to bed. She continued so I picked her up and took her upstairs. I then sat with her and we had a long conversation about how to play nicely, how she’s her friend and we don’t be mean to our friends things like that. She didn’t want to listen and kept trying to find things to distract her so I would just take them off of her and tell her we’re not playing now because you’ve not been listening and you’ve not been very nice. In the end she did listen and we had a nice talk and went back downstairs together and she played nicely for the rest of the day. Might not work for everyone but sometimes they just need to feel heard x

@Maria Ivester I’m tempted to pack up all of his toys after he goes to sleep tonight except for like 3 or 4 things but then I know he’ll get into everything he’s not supposed too😅

Try bratbusters she’s on IG. Her approach is different I really like her! She might have some great ideas for you guys. She’ll also share her perspective on the things you’ve tried and how she handles things instead.

Watch super nanny on YouTube you might get some ideas on how to discipline difficult behaviours and get them to listen to you

thank you guys 🩷

@Bee Rereading this as we speak! (Well, taking a break to scroll) Because I lost my damn mind today and realized I needed a refresher so I hopefully don’t lose my damn mind tomorrow. Such a good book

@Dea i have read it fully 2x without sleeping haha but now i also listen to it often when trying to get sleepy. It really helps me to focus on the things that I can control. The more I listen to it the more it becomes second nature.

Have u tried time in its where u sit with him in a quiet place and help him regulate his emotions and understand them also to understand that it might hurt u guys feelings when he back talks something like drawing and talking or giving him a foot massage etc it works so great for ma daughter I think u should do some research on time in and him back talking don’t mean u failed at all sometimes some babies have a harder time learning what not to do and to keep themselves from saying certain stuff especially when their mad shi I be having to bite my tongue sometimes myself 😭 but it’s little kids with big feelings so it can be hard sometimes but he is gonna learn

I know this is easier said than done but just a reminders that positive reinforcement of appropriate behavior will always work better than focusing on negative! I work in behavior therapy and there is so much research on this! Try praising the good behavior you see and or even small rewards given immediately after good behavior. I have a one year old so as a parent I’m not quite there yet and I know it’s so different. You’re doing great!

You could try exercise . If you have a yard, have him run the perimeter it's not like running is a punishement, more so running as a way to redirect that energy they're using to do something bad into something constructive.