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I feel stuck

had a baby shower today surprise from my friends and I had a really good time til I came home to my boyfriend. He calls them tramps and says he doesn’t want me to go out with the baby or even let them see him and then said I’ll just pass the baby around like a cigarette even though I wouldn’t. He’s just straight up ruined my evening and made me cry. I said I’d like to go out when the baby is here to the pub during the day with a friend and he got funny with me and said something is going to go wrong because newborns aren’t allowed in the sun and why would I even want to do that? but I said this is why you have sun protection snd we would be inside anyway and so many people take their babies out with them. I feel he expects me to stay inside every single day in and out and not see anyone. I feel like I’ve made a massive mistake, I’m miserable and I feel so depressed and like I can’t speak to anyone about it. I currently rely on him for everything so I can’t even leave and even so he’s been threatening to break up with me if I even let my friends see the baby because he doesn’t trust me. What do I do?

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Leave leave leave if it's like this before the baby I can promise you it will get way worse after. He sounds like a controlling asshole. So you rely on him for everything now.. But it sounds like you have friends and maybe family to support you leaving. He keeps threatening to leave you anyways so make it his reality. It might be hard at first but staying with him will be much harder.

This is extremely abusive and manipulative behavior and is likely to only get worse once babe comes. Unfortunately, it sounds like it’s time to start putting together an escape plan. Look for local resources for domestic violence victims, shelters, etc. Talk to someone you trust about your situation so someone knows what’s going on.

Break up he's trying to isolate you don't let him. And anything he says you shouldnt do for baby ask his Dr and debunk the comments. In other countries they take the baby out and leave them in their stroller alone to get sun because it's needed.

Major red flags. If a man is that insecure over you going out with your girlfriends do yourself a favor and let him break up with you. Trust me staying with someone who’s making you miserable is a lot worse than a break up. He should be happy that you have friends nice enough to throw you a baby shower and support you. I know it’s hard and a lot easier said than done but you don’t deserve to be miserable for the sake of a relationship. There are plenty of other guys that will be happy to see your happiness and not bring you down.

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