My parents are swingers

Soooo about 2 years ago now I found out that my mother and step father are fulll blown swingers, they have a tinder account looking for a unicorn to join them, and they go on swinger cruises. Now I found this out before my daughter was born and it absolutely disgusted me and I didn’t want my mom or her man to kiss my daughter ever in the face like ever. So it was a rule I had to keep for everyone to make it “fair”. I come to accept that I don’t actually like anyone kissing her on the face like it truly bothers me I allow them to kiss her head on the top but idk I don’t what people do with their mouths after seeing what I saw that it made me think differently with everyone ! Please not to mention my family has poor oral hygiene and my dentist recommended not letting others kiss her near the mouth and not sharing drinks etc with them as well just to limit the exposure of cavities! I know it bothers my mom and I do feel bad but she’s actively doing her swinger stuff and one day I know she’s going to ask why, should I tell her I know? Anyways would you do the same if you found out what I did ? Or am I overreacting? Thank you!
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IMO whatever she does in her free time is hers to do.. I’m sure she brushes her teeth and washes her face lol it wouldn’t affect me but I do agree that kissing baby in the face is a no! Just overall for everyone

I personally think your mom is an adult and should be able to do whatever on her time as long as it doesn’t harm her or others. As for the kissing I just don’t think anyone in general should kiss baby RSV, hand foot mouth disease and other stuff can pass to baby from others and just not worth the risk. However, I can see you might have some bigger feelings about finding out your mom is in the lifestyle which is understandable but also try to remember aside from being your mom or a grandma she is a regular person like the rest of the world and those aren’t her only identities

I wouldn’t let anyone kiss her mouth or face if they were a virgin and never kissed or did anything. Literally no need

How did you find out ? Your mom doesn’t know that you know ?

I agree with others. Just keep the rule at nobody kisses her face as nobody should be doing that anyways ,and leave your personal feelings towards their adult sex life out of it .

I wouldn't even let them be alone with my child... if you have weird vibes, trust that.

My parents are NOT swingers and I don’t let them kiss my kids (as babies) on the lips or….in general. They do now because my kids know how to CONSENT to this. I think you also have a personal beef with your mom being grown and making choices for herself. People can swing safely…have you considered this?

Girl that lady is grown, doing her own thing. You shouldn’t let ANYONE kiss your baby in the face/mouth regardless. Idc if they were more virgin than virgin olive oil.

As long as they use protection it shouldn’t matter in relation to sex? Obviously if they don’t there is a risk of sti so they would need to get checked reg and if they didn’t then I would agree no kissing

Sorry I think you're overreacting! What your mum and her husband choose to do in their spare time is their business, I don't see the big deal tbh. Sooo many people do this, you just don't know about it!

Hsv is transmitable and its contagious even with a condom. And so is hpv. I undertand your concern.

Don't let people kiss your baby. If you can't move past your mom's personal life, then you should talk to her but just try to get over it.

I honestly can't believe all the comments. Get over your parents weird kink. No, absolutely not. I would not let them watch your child. Main reason, you never know what kind of person they may bring in their home, you don't know what they may do around your child, this is off. Grandparents are doing too much these days. I don't think you're over reacting, I won't gaslight you like that. Your intuitive nature as a mother is always correct. My friend works with sex trafficking victims and 90% are Sold by family members. Theses aren't illegal immigrants, theses are normal blue collar and middle class America's. I don't trust people with my kids for reasons like this. Nope, I would never let anyone kiss my baby but especially when they have weird to me kinks and multiple partners that you can't number. This world is wild. You're talking about a baby that can't even give consent. No. I wouldn't have wanted grands that sleep around to have kissed me. Trust your no. Its a full statement, look...》》 No.

No one should kiss your babies face. Super gross. Congrats on your mom being happy.

I agree. She chooses what she wants and you choose too. You both make choices

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