Sent out invitations for my twins birthday this morning. Nobody wants to come
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Too bad you’re not in Texas
I just had my daughters 1st. 90% of the guests cancelled an hour before the party. I agree with Kyrie. Future birthdays just celebrate you and your immediate family and make it a special day with you guys go do something fun. I like to go all out for parties but I have wasted so much money on what could have been a fun trip for the family
@Lynn right i would be attending immediately
Same here now every year we don't party anymore haha
Did they give you any reasons why they responded no? Rather then tell me no instead of yes then don't go which is what ppl always do to us the last party I did as at a place which I had to repay I ended up going home with 30 meals because there was no refunds
I had something really similar happened with my son‘s first birthday back in October. The only family that bothered to show up was my parents and sibling, dad‘s parents and one of his siblings, my aunt and uncle, my dad‘s mom (my moms mom was really sick at the time), a couple of my close friends, one friends EX HUSBAND with their kids (I found out last minute he would have the kids and she would be at work, so I had to call him to ask if he would bring the girls…because she never mentioned it to him), a couple of dads close friends, my neighbors with their 3 kids, and ONE. ONE OF MY COUSINS. No one else. I had 98% confirmed guests not even a week before. Suddenly the day of? I had less than 20 people that were there… there were supposed to be about 50 people and around 10 or more kids. 5 kids showed up. I’m not doing anymore parties after that. We’re just gonna do things as a family… the Zoo, aquariums… things like that. And if people wanna join, cool. Let’s go.
@Kandis I'd be pretty happy with that turn out
As petty as it seems, for my kid is kept a list of everyone who sent her a gift (for thank you notes) for her birthday and xmas. The following year only the people who sent anything even a card got something back for their kids. I kept a list of who came to her birthdays and when their birthdays or their kids birthday came around i made sure we were busy. 🤷🏾♀️
We Experience this too for my preschooler. Some people ended up show which was cool but to not fucking RSVP is annoying as I didn’t have enough food and goodie bags. I don’t like doing birthdays with school families it’s just too much. I would still host and invite close neighbors, family members, work friends who have children. We attend all parties my kids get invited too because it’s rude to not attend (unless you have valid reasons and pre established plans that same day.). It’s sad and upsetting for children
I Wish you was in Texas we would attend and wish the a happy birthday can I call Then and wish them a happy birthday and send them something
@Enayda no people just said they were busy. I gave over a months notice so it's not like the party is right away.
@Rebecca I was happy with who showed up but it was the fact that the people who didn’t show up, were the people I had been showing up for… repeatedly. It left a bitter taste in my mouth. I had to reach out to all these people and ask why they didn’t come. What happened? Because I catered to everyone else and planned his party around everyone else’s life… I made sure these people would be there.
I been there. I tell ppl a year in advance and still happens to us. I even try and cater to their schedule that's why I stopped and do a yes day with them and 1 friend of their choice it's easier to schedule and now fun for everyone involved
@Enayda I did ask people if a choice of two different weekends would be best. Most people didn't care they said. I chose one myself that suited our schedule better. Now I feel bad because my kid is going to be excited for nothing. At this point it's going to be me her brother and possibly Grandma
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I’m sorry you’re going through this! I stick to family parties only. Our son has high functioning autism and friends are hard for him to make. But I totally get it. Sending hugs! ❤️
Sorry, this is awful. Is there a chance you can invite other children? Otherwise, I would see if it is possible to cancel the party and instead offer a fabulous day out.
@𝔾𝕚𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕝𝕖 I think I've made a mistake telling my daughter about the party at all. She's 4 and she understands about parties now and has been asking about her birthday since Christmas and wanting a party. I foolishly have been promising a party for months and now I can't back out. Her twin brother has developmental delays and wouldn't care about it in any way. I have very little family so I can't just invite more of them. My mom is unreliable but at this moment is attending. My only brother is a maybe. he doesn't even always make an appearance at Christmas so it will be a question mark up to the moment of the party. I don't really have friends myself since the kids were born so I can't fill the seats with them. I'm f*ck*d I think. We are already planning to go out the weekend before to do a family outing but she's not going to let me forget my promise. I have no idea how to find some extra kids.
@Rebecca It was *not* a mistake to tell her about a party that was properly organised for them. People were flaky and that is not your fault. How could you know? You could try posting this on a local fb group. Describe exactly what happened and you will find people who will want to show up. I would if I lived in the area. I have seen others in tge same circumstances doing this and it works. 🤞
Could you post on your local buy nothing group or your local mom group on fb and tell the moms what happened? I've seen some moms do that herr and then moms with kids the same age come through!!! It's really sweet!!
@𝔾𝕚𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕝𝕖 yes!! People do it here and familes show up! It's worth a shot.
Make a day out of it! Don’t know what you have around you, but go to the zoo or the aquarium. Any place they have been wanting to go?
@Margarita there's nothing much without a really long drive. My sons health is not good enough for such a big trip
@Rebecca ls there anything she wants to get into? Like painting? Baking? Maybe do a little scavenger hunt at home?
When is the party hun?
@Jacqueline it's may 3
@Margarita I don't know. Her twin brother has no ability to take part in any age appropriate activity so it's hard to choose anything
I’m sorry this happened to you. This is why I stopped doing parties. It was all enthusiasm when I mentioned it then when I sent invites suddenly everyone is busy washing their hair. Do something extra special just as a family instead and F everyone else!