Would you be annoyed?

I’d say that’s a pretty poor effort from your husband. Not just on Mother’s Day but every day, it really sounds like he could do a lot more to support you

Honestly I don't know if it's because it's my first mother's day but today I have been in my feelings about supporting mums on this journey and very angry about situations where they aren't supported! I would absolutely be annoyed in your situation. The only thing I would say is to try to lean away from sarcasm in these situations and just communicate clearly your wants - so when the zoo was hinted, instead of saying its mother's day, but oh well, literally say "I really don't want to go to the zoo on mother's day. Can we have a chat to think of something else I'd like to do?". Ditto with the food when he asked, say "I'd really like to not cook tonight as a mother's day treat, could you please cook something or order in?". It really sucks that we as women often have to do the emotional labour of explaining this stuff to men. I just wonder if he's not going to change overnight at least if you are clear about what you want, he can't then say "but you never said what you wanted". You've made it clear.

I don’t get why standards are that you should expect some help and support just on one day of the year. You should have a conversation with him about actively helping out daily So that it becomes part of his routine and how he fits in the household. Sometimes if things arnt pointed out, they don’t realise there’s an issue. I do this a lot - get annoyed when my man doesn’t do something I want them to do but without asking them to do it. It’s frustrating as you want them to notice and use their brain and think of it themselves. But I think there needs to be *some* accountability there on poor communication as their brains arnt wired like ours.

I hate to be like this too as it’s just another day in the year but I was hoping my partner would at lest come get the baby so I could get some more sleep this morning. If hes not offering on Mother’s Day, it’s never happening

I don't think that these things should just be expected on Mother's Day, he should be sharing the responsibility every day. Might be worth sitting down and having a conversation with him about how it all made you feel.. not easy but I think sometimes they need it spelling out!! I'm sorry your day wasn't what you wanted ❤️

Thanks for your comments everyone, I will definitely try and communicate better with him and see if that makes a difference. I have done in the past but things seem to always go back to how they were, it's exhausting. Or I get attitude/bad vibes back when I ask him to do things I feel like I'm constantly moaning. He works a lot which I understand but he doesn't see how much I'm doing on my own.

@Jess I definitely agree about it should be every day, not just one day. The only thing I would say is that it is draining to have to explain things to men when they actually are capable of doing it themselves. For example, if a man went to work, his boss isn't there so he just sits at his desk/workbench/till etc all day, and does absolutely nothing. His boss comes to him at the end of the day and asks why he hasn't done anything, and the man says "well you weren't here, so I didn't know what to do". It just wouldn't happen. In the workplace, men show initiative and look around at their site or office or whatever and figure out what needs to be done by themselves. We're even told all the time that men are better leaders and CEOs because they show initiative. But... where's that initiative when they come home? Men are definitely capable of opening their eyes and looking round their house to see what needs doing. But sadly they often choose not to because its a woman's job.

@Catherine well explained, my husband runs his own company too so definitely capable of showing initiative, just not at home 😩

How dare he!!! It’s Mother’s Day not Father’s Day