My husband and I can’t stop bickering.
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I wouldn’t say normal but common. I was with my husband 18 yrs before our son came along and 2 years into parenthood, we’re roommates. Not even husband and wife anymore. I don’t know if we’ll ever come out of it but my main focus and priority is my son. I wish you luck!
@Katie what kind of things did you guys do? How did you make time?
it's normal usually only thing that makes this better is becoming parents beginning of marriage and not rly knowing ur spouse besides as a parent. That was how our marriage went and we had no issues after both my children were born and we want a third i solo parent mostly though!
@Jay we currently have a 1.5 week old and I’m breastfeeding so he can’t help a lot but takes our toddler and helps with housework and will literally just sit and talk to me at night before bed while I breastfeed. We really struggled with our first and starting doing little dates here and there or picking shows to watch together
@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ thanks for sharing. That’s what I’m afraid of, that we’ll just be roommates. We’ve gone through so much to end up like that. We’ve always been each other’s support system so this is definitely hard
@Katie this is our first baby and we were doing well the first month. But the past couple of weeks, we just can’t seem to be on the same page. Our sleep schedule is on the opposite since he goes to work at night. We spend most of our time in separate rooms. It just really sucks. Sometimes, I feel like I say “I love you” out of habit more or that I’m reminding myself. At the same time, I miss him sooo much but I don’t know how to spend time with him.
@Samantha idk… I’ve worked with babies as a career and that’s easy. It’s everything else that I’m struggling with. I’m struggling with being a partner for sure.
@Jay I totally understand! If you ever want to chat, I’m here. I totally feel the same way. I was obsessed and so in love and now it’s gone. It’s hard to swallow
@Jay our first was a NICU baby so we leaned heavily on each other at first then I started getting postpartum rage a month or so in and that’s when our problems really started and it was a struggle and we thought about divorce a couple times honestly so we had to make the choice to work on ourselves too. Do you guys get any time where you’re together so you guys can force yourselves to talk/hang out? With this second baby my husband has been sleeping on the couch so he can tend to the toddler while I’m up with the baby and sleeping when she does so we have to force ourselves to have at least 30 minutes together after we get the toddler down
Yes it’s totally normal! Hang in there because it does get better! The newborn trenches are rough with the sleep deprivation, figuring things out, and all the hormones. We really had to force ourselves to make time for each other and that really helped