What do I do?

So lately I’ve been just feeling so distance and disconnected from my husband. I feel like we are living 2 totally different lives, I’m a mom full time, I work full time (I take the kids with me, I’m a caregiver for a family member) and do online school every night. He works night shifts, so he sleeps all day. But it’s not just that, The decisions he’s made just in this last year alone (and yes I’m talking about 2025) have been so hard and I’m trying to be supportive but it feels like he’s not truly keeping the family’s best interest at heart and just doing what he wants. He left a job with a company truck making 24$ an hour, to work in the mines for a month making AMAZING money( got my hopes up saying I wouldn’t have to work anymore blah blah) to quitting that job to now doing security, He’s spent over 1000$ on his certificates and he’s only making 20$ an hour and driving 1 hour to work in my car. And so I had to go back to work Full time after my maternity leave so we have the money to pay our bills and he acts like it’s no big deal at all. I’m just so uninterested in him anymore, like anytime I try to talk to him he rolls his eyes and has an attitude. We haven’t been intimate for over a few weeks now because I just can’t bring myself to do it. Like I love him but I’m not in love with him anymore. He’s says hes gonna do stuff like rub my feet or back and never ends up doing it. He sits on his phone because he says he’s escaping life because he hates it, He’s constantly drunk and high (he smokes weed) even at work. Im 100% sober except for the 1 or 2 shots I take every now and again. But I don’t know what to do to fix these feelings. Does this mean my marriage is over and I should just accept that or is there still something worth fixing idk any advice is welcome!❤️

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I feel the same way ugh :(

Couples counseling. If he doesn’t want to fix it, you can’t make him so if he chooses no therapy, you gotta leave.

I feel like communication is very important at this time, and if he doesn’t take it seriously is there anything you can do to leave? Stay with family for a bit until you can figure things out? It sucks feeling so disconnected from your partner, but sometimes you have to put yourself first for your own wellbeing. I hope things get better ❤️‍🩹

@Ana if we split up, he would be the one leaving as we have 2 kids together and he has a son that I adopted, and he wouldn’t put us out with no where to go, but he has places to go, I’ve already been saving incase things go bad because it’s been a downhill slide since I was pregnant with my last baby.

Seek out couples therapy together or even for therapy for yourself. You are both adjusting to new changes this year and your relationship deserves a a chance to be worked on. Yes, therapy is an extra cost but there are low-cost options through the government or through his employer even if the amount is only 6 sessions.

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