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I think you’re well within your rights and I’d be tempted to say a half truth. You’re exhausted from pregnancy and would just like to spend the time you have before baby gets here resting and nesting. My advice with things like this is always: are the consequences of sticking with your preferences worth it. For example, do you feel strongly enough about not wanting to go, to deal with the (unfair) repercussions of their attitude towards you for refusing to go. I’d definitely play on the fact that 3 hours in a car is incredibly uncomfortable as well. Wishing you all the best xx
You know yourself better than anyone & have to put the health of baby bump & you first. If you aren’t going to have a nice time, no point in going as it’ll just be a nerve wracking, tiring waste of time. I missed my husbands best friends wedding a week before my due date (last pregnancy with my son). Although it raised a few eyebrows, but I didn’t care simply because nothing about putting myself in an uncomfortable social situation appealed to me 🥱 Baby bump & I had a wonderful at our home spa day 😂🛁🧖🏽♀️💅🏼 Plus husband was supportive & didn’t object, it’s usually third party individuals who have unsolicited opinions to share 🙄 Do what’s best for you & remember, it’s ok to be selfish for your own mental & physical well-being 🫶🏻
I think you should protect yourself and your wellbeing. It doesn't sound like they're thinking about you and how you feel and it's good to have boundaries now, you'll need them even more when the baby arrives. Your husband should understand, you're not asking him not to go, just not to put you in that situation. And if the worst that they'll do is talk behind your back, it's likely that they're doing that already, so good riddance to them.
I totally understand you we stopped making big plans because baby could come at any minute now right!? Do what is best for you and your baby, hopefully your husband can understand that if the baby decides to come early it would be very risky! (With the drinking involved they might not be able to drive you to the hospital) and if he goes and you stay is he really willing to miss out on the birth of your child? I’m sorry you are in this situation but don’t stress yourself try to relax x
First of all, please don't stress! It's not worth it. Second, I also have a rubbish relationship with my mother in law and wouldn't want to be stuck with her if anything happened or if I were to go into labour early etc, it's completely your decision! If you do go, I'd just suggest having your hospital bag with you and make sure you know where the local hospital is just incase, and definitely don't let them stress you out! Xx