Husbands.

Can someone tell me what I can do. I have been getting so angry and upset with my husband. So I ask him to do something for help me with our kids they are 4 2 and 6 months so im always running but he either forgets and i end up doing it... or he says I can't I'm busy (with his game) And 90% of the time he is on his computer playing his games. He gets up gets on his computer get off work comes home after a hour drive and gets on his computer. And even when I have to go somewhere without the kids he doesn't watch them he makes his parents watch them ( we live with his parents) he puts hus headphones on and turns them up so he can't hear anything. I'm tired of trying to ask for help with our 3 kids and him just playing game. And yes I know that is how he gets ride of stress. But I don't want to sound selfish but what about me? I'm overwhelmed overstimulated. Definitely tired of hearing mom on a bad day. I just don't know how to tell him that he isn't even trying to be a dad. Most days I feel like a single mom.. (no hate to single mom's I look up to guys and what you do) I just wish he would listen to me when I need help with the kids. And i have talk to him about it before and all he does is pull the card of im just a bad dad. Any ideas and or Suggestions would be greatly appreciated.