Grandparent not respecting boundaries
I’m 20 and me and my husband live with my mother who helps us TREMENDOUSLY but.. I’ve asked her not to bring her “spouse” around my daughter because she’s constantly breaking up with them and they have disrespected my husband and I over the course of 3 years; for example saying things like “I fell bad for ______ that she has parents like that”. I ask my mother “please. If you respect me and my boundaries do not bring them around my daughter” she said okay and agreed but I’ve found out multiple times while she’s watching her that she brings her spouse over after I said NO. I understand this is her place as much as mine but if I ask to respect a boundary should she still bring her over?! I tell her don’t let her hold my daughter and she still does. I tell her I’m not comfortable with her being around my daughter and she ignores me and does it anyways. Am I in the wrong for being mad at her for that. We just signed a new year lease and I’m not sure what to do now. She NEVER respects what I ask of her when it comes to my daughter
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I have very similar issues and experience this disrespect constantly. It’s really makes you feel at a loss because our kids love their grandparents and the process of holding others accountable when boundaries are crossed feels awful… it’s worse when your kids get even older trust me….
You live with your mother. She's still treating you like a child because you're living under her roof. You can ask her to respect your boundaries, but it doesn't sound like it's going to change either way. You'll need to live independently to live the life you want... with the boundaries you want respected.
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He’ll no!! Irregardless of your living situation you have that right as you daughters mom to set boundaries. Grandma should respect your wishes because in all reality if she cares about you guys’ relationship that’s a no brainer!!