Chore system
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As someone who was an every other weekend child growing up I kept my room clean and did laundry. Not much else mostly because I was only there a few times a month so the main goal was to spend time with my dad and his family. I would have felt some type of way if I went over and had a list of chores to do when I only had so much time with my dad. I would recommend keeping it light simple chores.
@Kels🌸 thank you for that perspective. They are elementary age, so we are trying to encourage cleaning up after ourselves. They also have an interest in cooking so we do a lot of cooking together, but that's not really seen as a chore.
We have a chore chart on the wall. They have set daily chores. They come home. Snacks. Chores. Homework. Relax. Consequences if they skip to screen time without finishing. That’s for all the kids in the house.
Do you want them to have to do chores for money or have chores they can choose to do for money? If they have to do chores but they get paid like an allowance then you could make a list and when they should do them, ie days of the week and time of day. If they can choose to do chores for money then I would write down different chores they can do and a dollar amount for completing the chore.
Other than keeping their rooms clean, they are each assigned a specific task they are in charge of while they are at our house. My SS takes out the garbage when the trash bag is full, my younger SD wipes down the table after meals and my oldest SD loads the dishwasher after meals. My oldest SD also picks up the dog poop outside when she is here but we pay her a couple dollars for that task since it’s something no one really wants to do 😅 we don’t monetize their normal chores but we do say their rooms have to be clean before they are able to watch tv or play video games.
We have my SD 2 school nights and every other weekend. The only real chore she has is keeping her room clean and doing her laundry. Other than that on days we have her we tell her things that need done and if she does it then she gets paid. However we don't pay her for keeping her room clean or doing her laundry (she is 14)