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@Jess he used to watch her for me if I wanted to pop out for 30 mins or so but the last time he done that she cried when I left so now he doesn’t do that either now. So no, he doesn’t now. He used to be more involved earlier than now, when she talks to him he’s not even really interested and it’s just making me sad like he doesn’t like her. He’s never said that to me that’s just how I feel
Ask him-is your daughter a problem for him. If so the relationship can go no further
@Jess I have asked him before, and he’s said no. He’s never said anything to me about her being a problem, it’s just his actions give me vibes that he’s not really interested.
Even comments like that the noise and peppa pig overstimulates him, which is fine as I get overstimulated too but he then says he don’t know if he even wants kids because it would ‘play on his mental health’.
I think you need to have a serious chat with him. I get he isn't your daughter's dad but if you both are thinking long haul she is going to be part of his life and life with kids is never going to be smooth.. there'll always be different challenges and you need to know if he's up for it. Maybe he needs to think about it a bit more as well, he may be saying the truth that he doesn't have a problem with your daughter, but there's a difference between not having a problem and raising one and being involved in their lives.
I think you need a good chat with him. Yes I know he's not her dad but he's playing a dad role. Tell him he needs to step up and look after her or I'm sorry the relationship won't go any further x
He sounds like a big red flag for potential abuse. Get rid
@Jess 100% agree. Baby girl can never pick up on these vibes. I’d say step up or be gone.
I kind of understood at the first part but then you said he doesn't e even feed her breakfast 🤨 My eldest has a different dad but my partner treats her like his and she calls him dad. He looks after both the girls the same etc. Does he look after her at all?