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Slapped

Rocky relationship since daughter has been born. Arguments and arguments over him not pulling his weight or helping me out. Today, I asked for help to watch our daughter so I can get lunch ready and prepare to pack the bags for a day trip, which takes a while to prepare with nappy bags, food bag, get myself ready and daughter etc. After a heated argument over him basically saying no after trying to wake him up multiple times to get downstairs and help out, I saw red and marched upstairs to find him on his phone while he was shouting back and forth with me, sat on the toilet. I was planning to talk to him alone so our daughter doesn't over hear us, but I guess something snapped. I ended up slapping him across the face. It felt so damn good after almost a year and half of torment from him. I apologized after cooling down a few hours later. Inevitably, he cancelled driving me and our daughter to our planned day trip, so I just went to my mom's house. Just wanted to get it off my chest as I have no friends to tell this to.

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Ohhhhh sounds like your raising two kids 🤦‍♀️🙅‍♀️ I’m not condoning slapping anyone however there’s only so much you can take. Personally this is why I choose to do this alone (baby conceived by sperm donor) because no body has time to care for a child and a man who doesn’t want to be involved and pull his weight. If your worried you can’t do this on your own don’t be sounds like you already are, if he wanted to be a team he would show you that. He’s telling you by his actions that he has no intention or levelling up to play dad. It’s not a nice situation to be in but you need to ask yourself how much you can tolerate and how many chances your prepared to give him to prove himself. I’m surrounded by “single mothers who are married and in relationships” yet there still doing it alone 😫 I’m so sorry your dealing with this x

The way I look at it… it’s more reactive abuse.. he pushed you past your limits and you snapped. I get it. But it does sound like you would be better off without him.

I’m sorry but if this was the case for the male.. women will be quick to say ‘LEAVE’ I get you made a mistake but there is no excuse for physical abuse.. he’s not pulling his weight COMMUNICATE.. you don’t slap him! Seeing red and reacting to it.. is no reason to do what you did and women on here should not say that because of his actions of not doing what he needs to do ‘is okay being slapped’ NO.. for the sake of your child/children I think you should seek therapy.. as a couple for your futures sake and child sake! Good luck

I’m not going to excuse slapping someone across the face, no matter how annoying they are - just as I wouldn’t excuse him slapping you. As parents, you need to model emotional regulation and good communication skills. Slapping your partner in the heat of an argument demonstrates neither. However, it does sound to me like he’s not pulling his weight and the relationship has subsequently turned toxic. I would give serious consideration to taking a break from each other. If your partner isn’t there to take the load off, then it’s not really a partnership, is it?

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