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Upset going to nursery

Mama guilt is real this morning. Oliver was heart broken going in to nursery. I feel bad as I did get a bit annoyed at home as took him an hr to eat his breakfast. I gave him plenty warnings to keep eating, mammy's going to get dressed then I will come down for you. (No food was choking risk) Still eating when popped down for him. No mammy I'm still eating but he climbed stairs upset. Said he didn't want to go. I said its OK, it will be fun, I wonder what you will get up to today. Lots more whining, I said tough. Mammy doesn't always want to go to work but has to.......instant guilt even though he didn't react to it. 😭 A lot happier once dressed, chatted in the car. More tears when got out car because he didn't want to wear his bag. Got to entrance and another parent let us in as they were comibg out. BIG MISTAKE. Had a fight on the stairs and sobbing because he wanted to buzz us in. I said its OK you can buzz us in when we get upstairs. The cook was following us up so he eventually agreed but still sobbing. Should I have just taken him back down and start again so he could buzz us in? He has to learn it's OK there's always an alternative but at same time should I just do what makes him happy to an extent to make it easier for both of us :( Hid behind me all the way to his peg saying he wants go home and sobbing :( breaks my heart, dreading big school. He's always worse on a Mon morning as just does mon Tues and Wed. I know he will be absolutely fine now and happy when i pick him up but oh man it's hard. Picture of us yesterday at the beach 💙

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My daughter does the same thing, and I totally get the mum guilt. Personally, I don't think letting him buzz in would have solved the problem. He would have found something else to be upset about because there was an underlying problem. He had a lovely time with you and is finding it hard to go back to nursery and to regulate his emotions and this is his way to show it. ❤️ It is very hard to deal with this. There are days I am 1 hour late to work and my day is ruined by all the tantrums and tears. Big big 🫂

@Kristina aww I needed that hug haha. My husband has just rang me so that helped too. If he was still totally heart broken I think they would have sent me a message. It's just so hard in the moment. If someone holds the door for us tomorrow (which they aren't actually meant to do as nursery need to be able to see Who is coming in) I'm just going to say no thanks otherwise it will be the end of the world haha. He will be excited tomorrow as I'm joining him at 4pm for a mothers day tea. How cute. 💙

Yes, you are prepared for drama! Enjoy your mother's day tea, what a lovely idea! 😍

I had a really tough day with my 3.5 year old yesterday, we’ve just moved house and I was trying to get things sorted and unpack, and she was following me around yesterday whining asking me for food, to play etc, I ended up snapping back a few times and I feel awful today (I’m at work and she is at nursery). She was just bored and I had stuff to do and needed to prioritise that, but it doesn’t make the mum guilt easier that I haven’t given her a fun day at the weekend! The fact that you are thinking all the above, makes you a great mum 💖 some days are just hard. And slow breakfasts are painful 🤣 xx

@Gem aww thanks lovely. Yep it's so hard. Picked him up at half 4, full of beans. Had to go to shop, bad idea haha. I honestly hate self service tills. He got upset because couldn't put basket back from where we got it from. Then shouted I'm making him upset because we didn't go to park even though had just been with nursery. He was full of sorry and I love you though. I hope you settle in to your new home , your little one would have forgotten. Yes!! Why do they always eat super slow when we need to go out?? Unless we just don't notice when we have lots of time ha xx

Sending solidarity. My mornings are crazy sometimes, I’m mentally destroyed by 8:40am lol

We went through a stage of this lasted a few weeks, totally broke my heart. I did find she was a lot happier going in if she knew who was going to be there, especially if it was her favourite teacher. I used to play guess who's going to be at nursery, and let her take a small something from home.

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