AITA?

Me and my friend are pregnant at the same time. She's 11 or so weeks behind me (she's just found out so is about 5 weeks pregnant). I have two boys and have just found out that we're having a girl. She keeps making comments of "oh I'm so happy for you because now you'll get to experience being the mum's side of the family when you have grandchildren/you'll get to be mother of the bride and not the spare part as mother of the groom" She's made it VERY clear that she's hoping for another girl. She already has two. Because she comments things like "I'd hate to be a boy mum" because "they only have ugly clothes", "they're just dirty all the time" and "if I get another girl, I'll get to be the preferred side for three". She's also basically said that because I have two boys, I must only want a girl this time. But she has two girls and couldn't think of anything worse than a boy. Which is such a contradiction... The comments are really annoying me because she makes it sound like having a boy is the end of the world and is the worst thing ever. Honestly, I would have loved a third boy thought I am thrilled to have a little girl. There's also been comparisons made between the babies already and I know if we have the same gender, that's not going to stop. Is it mean of me to secretly hoping that she has a boy this time just so she can eat a slice of humble pie? And maybe she'll learn that having a boy is one huge adventure, in the best possible way! My boys have shown me love like I've never known it before and I wouldn't trade them for the world.

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I love being a boy mum! I hope she gets to experience it and realise how wrong she is!

God she sounds relentless tbh! I love boys, my middle is a boy and he's now 11 🥰.

Well, i really wanted a girl and i found oht on my bday that is a boy and to be 100% honest I was disappointed .. BUT !!!! We are 5 months on Saturday- and I could never see myself a girl mum !! God the way he looks as me .. is melting my heart !!!💓

Thank you everyone. I feel like such an ass hoping that she gets something that she very clearly doesn't want gender wise but I honestly think her also having a girl will just make things worse. It's a really awkward situation 🙈

Haha it would be funny if she is having a boy, but I've heard boys are easier than girls! My son is 4.5 years old and he is such an affectionate loving kid. Currently pregnant with a girl and I'm dreading the sass 🤣

Please make another post with an update once she knows what she’s having - I’m invested now 😂🙈

@Suzy If I remember, I'll comment on this one with the update 🙈

@Nina My first born boy is such a sweetheart. My second boy is, in the nicest way, feral 😂 His personality is next level so I'm hoping that our little girl will be nice and calm as a treat for surviving our second 😂

It sounds like she wants a boy and is projecting to make herself feel better if it turns out she's having another girl

@Lana She honestly would be distraught if she's having a boy. She made that very clear before she even got pregnant

Ah great, I really look forward to the update hopefully!! 😂❤️

Small update. Last time we saw this friend (a couple of weeks ago), we mentioned that we had picked a name for little one but we're not sharing with everyone. I told her the name we like and have since decided we're using. Today, she announced that if she has a girl she will be using this name. And because she announced it on a larger scale than me (to the friends and family who know she's expecting this early on), she has more "right" to use it. I guess if we're both having girls, they'll be called the same thing. 🤷‍♀️ Really really now hoping that she has a boy 🙃

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