Couples

We struggled after our first: I also suffered PND 6 months after birth. Having kids is draining some days, especially if you are not sleeping well. Does he do his fair share of helping? X

Yeah he helps out when he’s home from work mainly with our oldest child. I suffered with PND after my first was born, he’s an affectionate person and I was before having kids but it’s really gone down hill from there x

Do you still love each other? Me and my partner had a rocky few months. I was the same. I just wanted to be left alone sometimes. Hormones are also crazy. Do you have anyone who could help look after the kids whilst you and your partner spend some time together? Even just for a few hours x

Yeah the love is still there for definite! Hormones are definitely the worst of all hahaha yeah grandparents have the kids often enough but we don’t really do much sometimes x

Do you have date nights? We found them to help us have some “us” time x

We’ve not been on one for ages since having our second in January, which has been hard because our youngest struggled with night time and I’d feel horrible leaving her with grandparents when she struggles at night routine and that’s only time we will get if our oldest stays out for the night at grandparents x

That makes sense. We didn’t have a date night for over a year. Maybe try to do something for a few hours during the day; even if it’s just a walk, or a meal. Or simply spending some alone time together. It’s hard when you feel like you have to schedule it! But it’s the only way at times x

I'm in the exact position.. I gave birth almost 3 months ago and I'm struggling love, affection and intimacy. I feel really bad because I come across cold hearted but I can't control it.

Yeah that’s how exactly I am, it’s been hard to explain to my partner about it as he’s been feeling like he’s the issue x