Delivery/babysit

Hey! I’m 36 weeks with my second. I’m getting more and more nervous as we get closer because I am not sure how this will go. The only person we have in the same state is my mom who broke her wrist last week and is in a cast 😩. My first pregnancy, she and my husband were in the delivery room and I had the best experience. Now this time around I really wanted her to be there too but the plan was for her to look after our 13month old daughter. But now that she broke her wrist she wouldn’t be able to be hands on like that (change her diaper is probably going to be the hardest with one hand) so anyway I am not sure what to do, I want my husband in the room so him staying with baby is not an option. My baby never had anyone else look after her so hiring a babysitter or having friends look after her is also not an option cause she will freak out and I’ll be stressed out. Now we’re thinking of maybe having a friend come help my mom, but also how would I know when to plan it for? They’ll have to call off work if it’s last minute and idk… My daughter came 9days early.. pff Idk I’m just really stressed out. If anyone has any advice please share

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The only advice is switching your hospital last minute to a hospital that has a birthing center where your daughter and husband can come. Some hospitals have a birthing center that are also covered by state insurance so no out of pocket it may be a lot of work finding one covered under insurance but it’s definitely worth it you can also just call your insurance and they will help you find one

@Vencecea but then I’ll have to switch doctors 😩 the docor I have now has seen me during my pregnancy, was there at the birth, did all my daughters check ups and still, and saw me during this whole pregnancy, will also be there at the birth again and will become my second’s baby doctor too and I trust her fully.. ugh but thank you for the advice maybe they have a birthing center there idk I’m seeing doctor on Tuesday I’ll ask her. Thank you!!

I'd hire the babysitter or a doula to help your mom. You'll be in labour and not even thinking about your eldest.

You can ask if she covers your insurance if you move hospitals it’s just where you give birth I mean last minute so you could take her with you

@Amanda but how can I plan it tho? I can’t hire a babysitter cause idk when I’ll give birth exactly. My friend tried to hire an on call babysitter once and had to make so many calls until she found one, we won’t have the time to deal with that. Idk how doula works but I’ll look into it thank you

@Vencecea i’ll ask thank you!

You'd plan it exactly how you said. Call around now for an on call babysitter, doula or midwife. in my area, we have 2 groups on fb. One called moms helping moms, and the other called voice your opinion. I'd make a post in both groups and see what comes.

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