What do you do when you’re overwhelmed?

I am binge eating right now to get the stress out of my system

I get you 100%. I have 2 under 3 and I'm pregnant with baby number 3. My boys constantly bicker, make mess, undo everything I've tidied and are always demanding or wanting something from me. It's exhausting because all I want is space and to be left alone xx There are days where I do shout at them and lose my ability to self regulate and there are days where I'm able to take deep breath and handle the situation. You're human and sometimes you get overwhelmed. Please don't beat yourself up xx I've learnt that during the day, even if your little one doesn't nap anymore.. quiet time is a must. I put my boys in their room for a hour or two so I can have a hot drink and regulate myself xx

Wow so sorry. Mine is only 5 months & I feel similar in that it’s all on me. Do you have more support? I unfortunately don’t & need to get Back into working out.

i feel the same way, it got really bad i have ppd/a now. i was put on anti depressants but haven’t taken em.

I don’t have advice, my daughter is only 3 months.. but I’d second Lauren’s comment about quiet time. My sister does this, her 3 year old naps (almost doesn’t) and her 7 year old does quiet time (if he’s home from school for some reason). It gives her an hour or so for her own quiet time to reset or get something done.

I have a one year old and am pregnant I started placing her in her playpen for some time and being close but not inside with her or right next to her to get some “me” time so she’s not all up on me and next to me and have been getting less overwhelmed daily also taking walks and just getting outside helps daily as much as I don’t want to it really does help hang in there your not alone

When I’m feeling overwhelmed fresh air ALWAYS helps. Even just leaving the house , getting in the car and driving to dunkin & treating myself to my fav coffee & getting my daughter her fav donut.When it’s nice out going to the park and letting her play with other kids while I standby. Does your child take naps still? When she takes a nap and I’m feeling overwhelmed I take a hot shower once she’s asleep and put on my fav show. I’ve even taken her to target to just look at the toys and books just to get out of the house . Also the mall by us has play area for kids so I sometimes go there and let her play with other kids and sit there sipping on a fav drink. I think just getting out the house helps so much.

When I’m over stimulated I put all my kids in the car and go for a drive. I listen to my music, buy a drink I like and drive for a little bit. I find it helps me calm down. And 2/3 of my littles tend to sleep and the other just kinda watches everything going by

Go outside! A change of scenery can help a lot. Plus, if he's outside, he's not as likely to be breaking your stuff or making a mess for you to clean up later. Do meals outside, sit him in a sandbox, or just give him a shovel and let him find his digging spot. Take a moment to take in some sunlight and enjoy the sound of sounds not bouncing back at you like they do inside. Double points if you go for a walk. You've got this. 💪

I pass on over to her daddy and get in bed.

No one ever tells you just how hard it can be esp. the night shift

Ema that’s good that Dad helps

My hubbie helps but it’s not the same as when I do it.

@Pauline usually at that point, I am so over simulated that I don’t care much how he does it .

Totally understandable

Sometimes my husband is out of town for work so I get the 24/7 thing. My best advice is a gym membership somewhere with childcare (if it's out of budget see if they have financial aid, the worst they can say is no). My youngest is a velcro baby but they'll still keep him at least 15 minutes upset which is something and he's slowly getting used to it so I get more time. I don't even workout most times, I just do some self care and enjoy an audio book lol

Try wearing 1 headphone with calming music or sounds.

I like to do something for me every day! Every morning I wake up and workout. I put something on the tv, give him my phone and get my workout in. I have almost 4 year old and 9 month old. It helps to get outside as well! Im a SAHM and no support so i understand it’s really hard! Every time u feel like youll lose it it just comes down to self control and learning to regulate ur own emotions. U got this 💖

Audiobooks. I can change diapers and ride dragons at the same time 🤣

I have 2 under 2 was a stay at home mum for 2 years, my son is 13 weeks and he had colic from newborn right up until he turned 3 months and my 1 year old just is overall going through something right now, I didn’t see a way out of a dark hole I was in and had to actually start working again it’s so good to be in some kind of adult interaction and not be with the kids all day every day

Kerri who watches 9 month old during your workout ?

@Pauline I do! She goes in her jumper or I let her crawl around while I workout! I have to take many breaks but working out is a priority for me! 😊 It’s definitely not easy and some days she just wants me and I have to stop or cut it short but I do what I can! This is just a season and soon I can go to the gym and put her in the daycare! But this is the one thing I do for myself and it feels good!

Nice Kerri very inspiring can’t wait to try this with my son.

@Pauline I even do the stroller sometimes too! As long as the baby is somewhere safe! You just gotta be quick 🏋🏽‍♀️

Oh I wish my kid would stay put w/o crying.

@Pauline Maybe put the baby in a carrier just do a light workout. U could put on grow with jo on YouTube and do a dance workout or something small. As moms we have to adapt! Just know this is a VERY small season. Soon ur baby will be so independent and you’ll have time back to urself 💖 even just put the baby in a carrier/stroller and walk! My son was like that as a baby and I just walked a lot with him! But my daughter is a little more independent! I understand how hard it is. But making time for yourself every day is important!! Doesn’t even have to be a workout can be a shower, hair mask, anything! Just something small you do for only YOU 💖🥰

Hi Kerri thanks for this advice! I know I’m so blessed as I had my baby in 40s. I kinda do want another Even tho it’s hard