Baby groups

I have always found this. Just stick with it, the groups are for you and baby and that’s all that matters. Friends are a bonus but it’s more important for bub to socialise. You’ll find the more you go the less you’ll care

It’s tough making friends as an adult. Unfortunately there are “adults” that still behave so juvenile and bitchy everywhere. I’d ignore them and concentrate on your little girl, noone needs such company and they’re just embarrassing themselves. On one of the days another lovely mum will come and you’ll have a nice time x

Yeah my nearly 3 month old and I went to a stay & play yesterday and it was really difficult I started making small talk with one mum and she ended up talking to her mates and they had their back to me it’s pretty intimidating. And he’s my 2nd I’m still not used to it all I don’t get the need to be rude

It may seem like they are “friends” but more digging or a lil asking and I realise it’s only their 2nd or 3rd convo, they talk to each other because it seems comfortable for them now but def not at the stage of “friends”. So keep trying. Once I talk to someone already I tend to say hello and talk to them again and a new mum might look at us talking and assume we are “friends” but def not lol. Everything is not as they seem. Just be open, start convo, maybe walk up to the mama sitting by herself. And try library sessions as opposed to mum groups because they have a librarian leading the whole session w instruments and music, at the end if I see a mum I can befriend that’s when I start convo. On here reach out too. Some of my closest gfs I met on here

yeah i founs them sooo intimidating with my first, i didn't even attempt them until 6 months with her. but just keep at it and maybe try different groups, i found one group that i loved and made good friends in, another group i thought had a very different vibe and i didn't bother going back. you're doing great though by getting to them!

I found the same and honestly got to the point I no longer cared. My daughter enjoyed the groups and that all that mattered x

I hated my baby sensory class I stopped going after 1 term 😅

Sometimes the baby groups can be annoying because parents use it to compare their kid with others, when everyone should go at their own pace and it’s not a contest!

Yup. Can’t do more than one screaming child. I lose my mind

I think it can depend, I’ve been to paid sessions and this was the case. But when I go to the community/council run groups it is different. I think it helps that as they are much bigger/busier you get more new faces every session and it’s less cliquey.

Some classes are like this personally find cheaper/free classes like library and children center one far less cliquey.

I also hate how sometimes, you go to a class and have a chat with a fellow mum and then the following week totally blank me 😂 I’m always smiling at the mums and trying to look approachable. I second what someone else has said above, I’ve made friends just going to the library when it’s quiet and it’s just one or two mums and not a whole group.

Not intimidating - just super boring

Yep. I absolutely hate them and don’t go. Baby picks up on my severe discomfort n won’t settle so no point in going.

I found this, especially when we moved up to the 6-13 month class. I would ask my fiancé to come with me purely because going alone was exactly the same for me and I was always trying to join in conversation but it was so awkward and I just didn’t feel welcome really. I stuck it out for a few months but honestly it stopped me from going. I’m back at work now with my work friends, but I did get to the point where I felt really isolated from a friend aspect as I thought I’d make mum friends. None of my friends have babies either. It’s tough!

I think most moms feel this way and some are better at hiding it than others. I know I feel awkward sometimes and just talk to whoever talks to me. Some days I’m soooo awkward and just totally blank on how a conversation is supposed to go 🤣 When in doubt, just talk about the babies!