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Need advice please

Me and my partner had our baby in May 2024, we currently saving to buy our first home. So we living with his parents. Not that I wanted this from the start. But as he’s got another child, from a previous relationship. Long story short she had a rough start in life( No fault to my partner ) with some pressure from my partner and his family, I moved in the April 2024. Since the start, I’m finding it ridiculous hard with his mum. She interferes a lot of the time, I can’t leave my baby in a bedroom to sleep without her coming to check, while I’m doing her bottles, I’m gone 10 mins. When my baby was first born she didn’t want my parents coming round and wanted me to delay it as she wanted to soak up the time before they got there. To even my own family relying they didn’t feel comfortable there. But just recently my partner had started working away and everything got more intense with her. I want to move back to my parents house until we get our own home. But I’m feeling like I’m letting his daughter down. I don’t think I can physically take his mum no more, she low key controlling, and my at the point where I just want to run back home.

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If your partner is working away a lot and you feel like you want to go home to your mum - go 🤍 I feel like you’ve compromised for a year, now your circumstances have changed again and so plans can switch up again. I can imagine your MIL will say something (just get that impression from what you’ve said on your post) but I think it would definitely be fair. I’d try go along the lines of thanks for having us etc really appreciated it but it’s been a year and I’m just in need of a switch up and while x is away it will be nice for me to spend some time with my family. Maybe a bit jokey like ooo we’ve lived with you for a little bit now we’ll live with my mum and dad and then we’ll actually live by ourselves - how will we cope without you all Kill her with kindness 😂 But equally… I couldn’t live with my in laws when I know I could be at home with my parents x

Perfectly said Olivia. Obviously you don’t want your MIL to feel like you’re ungrateful so try your best to word it well and stay calm if she gets emotional but you have every right to want to go to your parents too so don’t feel guilt tripped into staying. It’s your life. Be strong ❤️ it’ll be worth it!

Completely agree with the other comments, any Mum should understand that sometimes you just want to be around your own Mum and family, it’s not her decision to make, you just have to explain your feelings and do what’s best for you and baby, if she doesn’t understand or agree with your feelings then that’s her issue not yours, your allowed to feel and want what you do, don’t let worrying about other peoples reactions set you back x

Does he have full custody of his daughter? That's the impression I got so I'm commenting as if so.. What if you discussed you ALL moving to your parents, but so his mum didn't miss out on time with the granddaughter, when dad's away, she could go to grans? But when dad's home you all live together at your parents?

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