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Husband works, has a disability but cleans, tidies, runs errands for me, feeds toddler and baby, does bath time sometimes, puts them to bed and plays with them etc, I do the cooking, some of the cleaning, laundry, doctor appointment and school runs. This is what works for us. Its your and your husbands child tell him to show yiu what he does if he thinks he does so much alreadyX also this so much already business needs to go because hes a parent too not just you
We don’t class it as ‘help’, it’s just my husband pulling his weight in our joint house with our two children. My husband does my toddler’s bath every night without fail, then we share bedtimes. In terms of housework, we split it (but not 50/50). I’m currently on mat leave but we both usually work full time. He does bins, vacuuming and mopping, anything for the cars, lawn mowing, cat litter exclusively. We then share everyday things like general tidying, cleaning the kitchen, cooking. We fully share toddler and newborn duties when he’s home. Basically we try to act as partners as much as we can!
During the week, my husband will do bath time and share bed time when he’s home. He works long hours, so some days he won’t do anything, as he might be working until 10 or 11 at night. At the weekend (if he’s off, sometimes he has to work Sundays), we will split all chores and childcare 50/50.
When he’s not working away he does everything he can. Hoovers up, gardens, takes bins out, throws laundry in the drum, cooks breakfast, does bath time and bedtime, does the big food shop and takes the toddler with him to “help”, plays in the garden with them. He works 10-12 hour shifts and when he’s home he’s as present as he can be. When he’s working away he still helps by arranging food deliveries and the occasional cleaner for me.
It’s not helping, it’s parenting, the same as you do. Essentially if we are both at home then everything shifts to 50/50.
It's not helping it's being a husband and a dad. He does all the house work, except ironing, when I'm working weekends he looks after our daughter, he changed nappies, cleaned up sick, he takes her on days out. He works full time also
Bath time😂he’s not working atm but when he was there wasn’t a lot of time before our LG would be going to bed so she’d be having her dinner as he got in and then he’d bath her and I always do bed time. It’s not a lot but with the little time before she goes to bed it gives me a minute to sit down and breathe
It’s his baby, there’s no such thing as helping more than he should.