Is this normal? Husband parenting woes
My husband feels sorry for himself and says my expectations of him are too high. These are: getting up with the baby and toddler three mornings a week, helping with bedtime four nights a week, doing dinner four nights a week and then having the children for two hours at some point over the weekend.
Am I expecting too much? I do almost all the housework, day to day parenting etc and as you can see he has several nights off parenting a week. He works full time and I'm a SAHM.
He is also impatient with our children and call them unruly and today said you listen to me or I'm going to kick you in the head in a minute" which was apparently a joke/frustration talking when I challenged him. He says he should be allowed to vent and moan because parenting is shit a lot of the time and everyone feels this way.
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So he has three nights a week to himself plus a hobby that takes up half a day every weekend. I'm just not sure what to do to address the balance or how to even approach the conversation really.
Oh and thank you I appreciate you replying!
Is he doing dinner and bedtime 4 nights a week on the same nights? Maybe he is finding doing both together too much? By doing dinner do you mean cooking, cleaning etc?
Lol, I have to laugh because I feel like if you are a SAHM, they think you should do EVERYTHING involving the kids, it’s your job, stop complaining.. I was there too!
@Melanie so those three nights we're doing bedtime together (multiple children) but he will cook and I'll clean or vice versa.
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I noticed this in my husband a month ago, getting short fused. He use to go to the gym regularly before new job and dadhood. I would say it's not too much to ask BUT it may not be the right balance. Once I started listening to his concerns, things got better. He has a night/day for himself, we found help in the community friends/family to lighten the load. Hired a cleaner twice a month, each going to 1:1 counseling and just started couples counseling.