MIL told me I’m over bearing

My MIL has my son 2 sometimes three days a week while i work, this is her third grandchild, one she don’t see at all they live abroad, one she sees almost daily ( my SIL kid) and then my son, when she has him she never tells me where they go our what they do in the day, so at any given point I don’t acc know where my son is with her, I only find out when I go to pick him up, and I always ask how he been with his milk, what’s he eaten today when was last nap, basic question so I only how to do my evening no? She rolled her eyes and told me I’m over bearing do I not trust her; she said “this is child no 5” ( bring her three kids, the grandchild see sees daily and not my son, I said to her but it’s not Your 5th child, he’s our child mine and my husbands so if I want to know things or raise him a way you have to respect what I ask. But she said everything she gives my son she also gave my nephew ( SIL baby) and I said cool good for you but that’s not what I want my son having. ( she bacuslly raises my nephew as my SIL was only 16 when she had him) it’s like she doesn’t like being in control or needed as much as my son has two parents and we have our ways of doing it, iv said to my husband to tell the MIL I’m working from home next week and I’ll keep my son all week apparently I got called childish and when my husband asked his mum to repeat she just waved her hand and walked off. Am I wrong for being fuming about that 5th child comment?

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Asking what they got up to at the end is expected since you didn't get an update through the day. Did you explain why you ask when was last nap and snack? Did you explain why you don't want them eating the same things?

Not wrong. Her time to raise her children is over. She's a grandmother and has no say in how you raise your child. Those questions are standard. Needing to know where your child is is a safety concern and should be cleared with you beforehand. My mum always says what they might be doing when they look after my son, just so I have an idea about where they might be. She always let's me know what he ate and how many diapers she changed. I never have to ask.

@Amanda iv explained it to her many many times but her attitude is a my way or high way, she don’t see an issue, if you don’t agree with her thoughts or opp then your the wrong one, I knew those questions are basic

@Ellie I have to ask every time like by now she’s learn to just tell me, I text in day and sometimes takes hours to get reply

Not wrong at all. She sounds very entitled. Boundaries should be set with your partner and if she can't agree, I would find another solution for my son.

I would loose my mind if I didn’t get a text back for hours with someone who has my SON. Sesh I get upset when my mom used to do that when watching my dog😅

Um. No. Heck to the hell no. You are the mom you have the right to those important questions. Period. It has nothing to do with the other children or what she's doing.. you asked about your kid. If anything she has a problem not you. My opinion of course

She’s entitled and disrespectful. I’m so sorry you have this experience. Xx

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