Why does he change his mind last minute

Every time we have a plan he changes last minute. I’m starting to think it’s abusive how he changes his mind every time last minute. For example he’s changes his mind twice now on our holidays despite the fact that i had booked and paid for the hotels he switches up last minute. It’s not just holidays though it’s a lot of things including house buying and even small things like dinners out and cups of tea. Im really starting to feel affected by his nonsense. Even a golf match he promised with my dad he switched up. The topping on the cake was he cancelled our Caribbean trip last minute literally the night before our trip because he decided he didn’t want to fly at 7am. He knew the flight would be at 7am when I booked it weeks ago. He makes me sick how inconsiderate he is. I organised everything including the airport car park and paid for it and he doesn’t appreciate any of it. I’m exhausted

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start going without him 🤷‍♀️ not even kidding

I’m seriously considering it

I would even tell him ahead of time. "I'm booking this trip, and I'm going either way, whether you end up coming or not." see how he responds.

If he doesn’t have crippling anxiety then you better start going yourself and enjoy your time!

He cancelled your Caribbean trip THE NIGHT BEFORE because he didn’t want to catch an early flight?? Say what now????? 🥴 Are you guys made of money or something because the fuck?? That must have cost a fortune! Not to mention you both would have booked off annual leave at work, any pet sitters, airport parking etc. Legit I would have got on that plane without him. Would have asked him one time if he was joking, if not, ok cool I’m still going! Fuck around and find out for real! 🤣

@Lyss this actually makes sense 😢 last time he promised to go on holiday with my family and my mum booked her annual leave for it and changed the dates just to fit with my husbands schedule and then HE cancelled it. My parents still went of course but it’s like he doesn’t even Care that people have to change their plans to fit his requirements and then he doesn’t show up to them! To be honest every time I’m super happy and excited for a plan he either acts like it should be cancelled or cancels . Maybe he does like arguments and conflict because it happens a lot every time he lies and does this!! 😔😠

@Neena we have an eleven month old and I can’t drive unfortunately so it would of been really difficult for me to make it to Heathrow with all of the suitcases and the pram all by myself last minute 😔 otherwise I would have gone! To be honest he’s a pilot captain and I’m a flight attendant so we get good deals and save by flying on standby , but Its a pain calling the company and filling out a refund form they probably think I’m messing with them booking so many trips just to be cancelled it’s almost embarrassing. I’m desperate for a trip as I’ve been on maternity leave the last two years and miss travelling so deeply. He doesn’t care because he flies out regularly

Something wrong here, I think if have lost my cool with the stuff around! Does he ever pay and make the plan? I'd plan to go without him and don't pay for him coz he clearly doesn't want to go

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