Rant post

Tell them that you want to spend quality time with her aline since it's her first easter and you want it to be just you, her and possibly her father. If she pushes back tell her that it's your baby and your choice, not hers

I've already had a bio family member who forced everyone to do things on "her" time..I did not go no contact with everyone just be forced to feel like this AGAIN. I want to scream at these women that NO , I do not do things on YOUR time..I am the parent and I am 28 fcking years old..you need to learn how to respect people.

I have gone no contact with everyone except my father, and plan to go no contact with him once my wife, daughter, and I move to a new place hopefully in july. Of course my family is opioid addicts and narcissistic people. I am all for going no contact if they can't respect you and your privacy or baby. I don't do family reunions with extended family anymore because I hate the "pass tge baby" type of games that extended family plays and hearing about how I'm doing everything wrong or being guilt tripped for how I don't bring my kids around the family enough. It is not on us as parents to make tge effort for people to see our kids, it is on those people to try to plan with the parents and make time to see them. With this baby it will be limited visitations for the first year, we don't do big holidays or anything because risk of sickness anyway

Maybe I'm just a people pleaser but if there was a moment I wanted to myself but others wanted to share with me I'd do it first then invite then to come and do it again. They don't have to know it's not actually the first time

I would just say that you have plans and will schedule a day/time that works for your schedule with naps etc Say ‘I will schedule another time for you to see baby! Will let you know when is best. Happy Easter. I will send pictures of her for you’

I think your over reacting a little bit it’s your kids Nan and it takes everyone to raise a child! You will appreciate it in the long run! I’m big on kids being around all of their family because if they just stay with one person they become clingy! It’s only a photo!

I personally would be thrilled someone cared this much about me and mine to want to show up on their own free will without being asked or forced. Like woahhh that’s awesome. Literally nobody shows up for my kids or does anything with them.

@Gemma it's not thier grandma, it's the 2 extra family members assuming they can meet my kid on THEIR say so, knowing I'm married to a lazy POS mamas boy who stresses me out everyday.

Family is family though surely and sometimes we have to bend slightly! If the dads an arse it’s not their fault is it! Also when you try and stop people seeing kids that when we all get a bad name! You never know you might have a lovely day if you actually make the effort with them!

Tell them no you want the pictures to be a surprise. But also schedule an easter celebration with them. And share the pictures with them when you get them.

Tell her that you’d like to enjoy the moment with just your small family as it’s your baby’s first Easter. If you get pushback, tell her it’s your child and that’s what you’d like to do (I personally would also make sure my husband was supportive of me before doing this so I’m not then fighting a battle on my own- but mine is almost always supportive). You can try to set something up for them to come visit her sometime after Easter if you’d like to seem more accommodating as it sounds like they do want to see baby, but they should also respect that you want to experience some things yourself. Not sure if you’re a confrontational person or someone good w boundaries, but as moms, we have to learn to be because our babies rely on us to do that for them until they can do it for themselves. Goodluck mama!🫶🏼

I’m with @SiSi I’d love this kind of effort and care put in by family. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I mean I totally understand wanting it to be on your time, that part. Not cool. You have the baby, they should work around that. But it’s gonna be you and the general public “gawking” at your babies picture being taken, not much… personal quality time to be had, again just my opinion. I hope you can find a middle ground maybe or at least feel happy with you final decision💕