Worried ill never be loved.

I'm feeling down. My last relationship I ruined. Perfect man it was year ago but it's still heavy on my heart. I feel so incompetent for a 33 yr old, I don't see many redeeming qualities about myself, I feel like a fuck up. I feel it would take years to turn myself into something presentable that a man wouldn't be embarrassed by. I just want whoever I'm with to be proud to calk me their wife. As I am now. I lack confidence, deal with depression/anxiety, I have a hard time standing up for myself so people walk all over me.n in short I'm weak ... and I have a history of cheating. I feel im too much to deal with. Should I just stay single? I don't want to be a burden on anyone.

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Maybe this is a good year to just love being you. Go to therapy and do the work. Heal some old wounds and spend some time making good decisions just for you and no one else. There is plenty of love to find out there when you are ready to receive it. Right now, you need to look and find the love within. ❤️

@Bonny maybe. Idk I just don't feel like I'm worth much.

Aww, you are. ❤️ But you need to hear it from yourself, or you'll keep trying to argue that you're not. Right now, even if you found a great guy and he told you exactly how amazing you are, you wouldn't believe him and drive him away or cheat or whatever. Just be you for now. You are enough. 💐

Talking w/ a professional is quite helpful, it may take time to wrap your head around the whole thing, but it helps Staying single for a while to heal & work on yourself does help. There's a lot of things to do to help work on the mindset. Believe me, it is working on the mindset. I deal w/ depression & PPD was a whole new ball game for me to navigate through as well as being a FTM, tbh Talking to others helps too, cuz a slight little outside insight helps. For example, I'm still struggling w/ the thought of "Not being a good mom", cuz just being a new mom, but little compliments, do help. On & off sleep regression, and then teething symptoms. I am so tired, but hearing what others say & think, helps me see that I am doing a good job as mama Finding a lot of different outlets to work through depression & anxiety is a lot of trial & error. I have more depression than I do anxiety. Just finding what works for you. I still struggle w/Practicing Gratitude, for an example. It takes time to uplift yourself🫶🏼💓

You will find love

You’re not a fuck-up—you’re human. You’ve made mistakes, but the fact that you’re reflecting and taking responsibility says a lot about your character. That’s growth. Depression, anxiety, low confidence—those aren’t signs of weakness, they’re signs you’ve been carrying too much on your own for too long. You’re not “too much,” and you’re not a burden. You’re someone who’s still trying, and that’s brave. As for your past, including the cheating—you’re owning it. That takes strength. The right person won’t need you to be perfect, just real. Should you stay single? Maybe for now—but not because you’re unworthy. Because you deserve a season of choosing you. You’re not broken. You’re becoming

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