Wrong or a difference in parenting?

OK, so I have a tricky one at least I feel conflicted…. I have a one year-old daughter. She is 27 pounds and just about 3 feet tall. State law says child has to be rear facing until the age of two, unless of course she is over 40 pounds and or 40 inches . My ex thinks it’s appropriate to have her forward facing inside any car, including the front seat of his utility pick up(the pick up truck with only two seats is his actual vehicle. He occasionally borrows his girlfriend‘s Honda.) the point is he can always borrow his girlfriend’s car to transport the baby and she shouldn’t be forward facing according to state law and CHP! The bigger issue is the fact that his main car is his work truck and at this point he has had our child forward facing in the front seat of the pick up as well as the backseat of the four-door Honda. The last two custody exchanges, I have formally refused to let the child go with him. I have offered to get him a brand new car seat for free through a program that will get him the appropriate transitional car seat, I have also sent him screenshots and examples of car seats that both rear face and forward face When the time is needed, and he still continues to only get four replacing only car seats, even though he has been told directly numerous times, he needs a transitional one… I guess you can say guilt is in me because he doesn’t even ask about her daughter. Part of me wants to send him videos and photos of her or offer him visiting time but I’m also scared he’s gonna try to runoff with her or something crazy I guess because him and his girlfriend of those type of people smh Anyways, he’s now missed two weeks with her daughter and a holiday because he had Easter this year with her and he didn’t even bother to show up . So he was refused to visitations because he continued to show with the wrong car seat and I even offered for him to take mine for the week and he refused..🤷🏽‍♀️ I feel like I’ve done all I can do offering for him to get a free one and they would help install the car seat, I also offered for him to borrow mine the first time and he refused now that offer is off of the table, part of me feels like it’s better activity to file a motion stating that his custody needs to be suspended until he takes car seat, safety classes and go back to visitation since he can’t transport her properly or for that matter coparent😒 I don’t know why I feel like I’m gonna get in trouble for not letting her go with him even though he had the wrong car seat and he was putting it in the front seat of the pick up😭 some part of me feels like even though state laws black-and-white the judge would find a way to turn around on me and make it my fault🫠