Am I over reacting

My sister in law has just broken up with her husband, after 15 years together. She has moved in to her mother's house. Her ex (before husband)has moved into her mother's house was originally to house sit, and I don't trust him. He is sly wiggled his way in no need to hoise sit anymore, and I don't trust him or his intentions. My sister in law hardly ever drinks and is now drinking daily. I have stopped my 3 year old going round there if he is there as I think he gets a little hansy with her, always trying to play with her hair, pick her up, gives her anything she wants, and asks if he can take her to the toilet etc Of course my little one doesn't realise and I do my best to keep her away from him. If auntie picks her up them I'm OK with it but then she hands her over to him, and personally he gives me the right creeps. I've told my husband the way I feel and he said that he has to now choose between our family unit and his family like his mum. I said you don't have to choose we can still go round there if he is not there or she can come to ours. I don't want to upset my husband but it takes one person you don't trust or even trust to do something and I'm not putting my daughter in any harms way. All my mother instinct are flashing red. Am I over reacting or is my feelings valid? Probably sounds stupid and I just need advice. My husband has known him for 25 years or so and said he is fine but I just don't know.

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U r not over reacting at all. Your mom instincts r right. He sounds like a creep. Keep protecting your daughter cuz all it takes is a moment and her life will b changed forever. Please don’t ever leave them alone and keep being on guard if your husband can’t see the red flags that’s on him but u keep doing u. U r doing great. Here if u ever need to talk

@Vanessa Its such a hard situation to be in, I don't want to upset my husband as he is so so close to his family and I don't wan to make it difficult for him but I'm going to protect my little one no matter what. Like you said it takes one moment, and I could never forgive myself. I just don't understand why everyone has welcomed him with open arms?? My sister in law also has 2 kids and I'm worried for them but nothing i can do, I've told them I'm here if they ever need me to talk or just to get away

Go with your gut. Your gut is never wrong. That's our motherly intuition and our woman instincts leading us the right way at the right time. Doesn't matter your husband has known him 25 years. Have you watched any true crime shows? Netflix has a bunch! It's the guy everyone least expects. He may not have done it before but you don't want your daughter to be his first.

Nope, not at all. go with your gut.

I’m sure it’s difficult and u don’t want to start drama but that’s your daughter u have to do wat u have to do to protect her. If it was my daughter I’ll start drama with god if I had to. I will always protect her. I don’t want her to go through wat I did at 12. So I will always defend and protect her. You’re doing great. Your mom instincts r there for a reason.

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