POV: You're notoriously late for events. Read below

I would be elated. I hate being late but I just can’t help it. The times I’ve shown up ‘late’ to something and realizing I’m actually early makes me so happy.

Also that’d be a good friend who knows you well. No offense taken lol

I know two different people that have to have this for them because they know they’re always late…. One of them their brother had to tell them one of the family were getting married an hour earlier just so he could get his brother there on time 😂 Another time we had to tell a friend the flight was leaving 2 hours before it left just to make sure she got to the airport at the right time and she was thankful we did!

I think it depends on the event , like say if it’s a hall party on a weekday then it’s okay to be late as everyone has work so they have to get ready and then come. But if it’s on a weekend and you have the day off then I say it’s best to come during the first hour. I think it’s important especially if there is going be an entry . Same with a surprise party .

I’m chronically late and I hate it. I appreciate this so much when people do this to me cause an even worse feeling is making everyone wait or missing out and the embarrassment/guilt all because im the one that’s late and holds everyone/everything else up. I get it, no offense taken 😂

@KayLee okay cool! I don't think I'd be upset either but no one has ever done it to me (I think 🤔😂)

@Kathryn So I'm thinking of doing this for my cousin 😂 she's ALWAYS like 2 hours late but I'm not sure how to go about it. Do I tell her family she doesn't live with to not tell her? Good to know people are usually grateful though!

lol my husband does this & ion even blame him cuz if he didn’t, I’d always be late & some places that require appointments or to stay on schedule so I really appreciate it cuz I can’t afford to be late, bt also it sucks that he has to lie to me cuz I cant help always being late all the time

I've done this to friends of mine 😂 Only for important events, otherwise socially CPT is acceptable in my friend group. No one has ever been mad about it, they know how they are

People know that I’m traditionally very early So I tell them to not give me the CP time give me the time they actually want me to show up because I will be on time

@Amandeep I would be absolutely LIVID if someone was late to a surprise party! That, weddings and potentially funerals are non-negotiables for me

I do this to myself deliberately… I put appointments into my calendar at least half hour earlier and I have such a bad memory I can’t recall if I’ve tricked myself or not so I aim for that time. Recently showed up to midwife appt apologising I was so late and they were so confused as I was an hour early. I have time blindness and often leave at the time I should really arrive

@Lauren okay now I'm wondering if people have done this to me! Lol I too am I always late

@Jasmin aaww that's real love 🫶🏿😂

@Raqi 🤣🤣 thank you for introducing the CPT to the thread, @Asha over here going against the grain being all early, sheesh 🙄😂😂

@Jacinta I am also this person!! Lol all my clocks that aren't automatic are set wrong too. Time is just a number at this point 😂

@Melanie @Raqi it’s the fact that we both mentioned CPT consecutively 🤣🤣🤣

@Asha oh I didn't even realize the timing 😂😂

Me and my parents do this to ourselves and each other🤣 sometimes it backfires though, I’ll add something to the shared calendar 20 mins before the actual time, then forget I did that and tell myself it’s an extra 20 mins before the calendar time, then add another 20 minutes to tell my parents the time we need to be there, and we end up being ridiculously early 😂😂 it usually works though, if it’s 3:30 I’ll tell my parents 3 and we’ll get there for 3:20 lol so I’d appreciate if someone else did it but then I’d probably end up an hour early with the extra time I’d add on as well🤣

Im the one that lies in this scenario, I hate hate being late it stresses me out, I always backwards plan and account for common delays like traffic. I also take someone being consistently late as kinda disrespectful. everytime I get together with my sisters I tell the youngest one the arrival date is 30 minutes after the true meetup time cuz she’s opposite of me

no i’d be grateful lol my coworker sets her car clock 15 minutes ahead

@MIA❤️‍🔥 I do this 🥴😂 I have mine set to 10 minutes ahead lmfao

I have to do this to my husband, he has no concept of time and has absolutely no sense of urgency whatsoever. I never tell him what time we need to be somewhere I tell him what time we need to leave (and usually 30-45 minutes earlier than the real time) because he is usually driving us and doesn’t ever actually know how long it takes to get somewhere, and routinely goes below the speed limit. Much less how long it takes to park, get inside, etc. It used to cause some friction between us but now we know what we’re dealing with and he is down for me telling him earlier times on purpose if it keeps me from stressing 🤷‍♀️ I would totally do this to a cousin if you think it would help the situation. As for the rest of the family she might talk to, maybe casually mention you told her a different time just so they’re aware. I wouldn’t say “don’t tell her” or anything but I’m sure they understand your reasoning if she’s always running behind.

@V Now that you mention it, I have never factored parking and getting from car to destination into my timings 🤯 I just take away travel time from the time I need to be there and try to leave at that time 😭I don’t account for traffic, parking, walking, or anything like that.. no one teaches you this stuff 🤣

My Mum did this all the time so I’d constantly lie about the time we needed to be places, I’ve always found it extremely rude and disorganised when people are chronically late but I also know some people just cannot help it no matter how much they really try so I tend to take it on a person by person basis and if I know they usually turn up late I’ll give them an earlier time so they’re on time, like there are assholes that just don’t care about other people’s time then there are people who’s brain just won’t allow them to be on time. I’m always early to everything because I never want to hold people up and I’m a huge planner so I’m rarely ever late and if I am it’s because something has gone majorly wrong and the world has severely conspired against me 😂😂

My friend told me her birthday was at 6:30, it was at 7 and I walked in on time. 😂 late, but actually on time.

@Lauryne oh jeez 😂 well I'd rather be early than late that's for sure!!

@Autumn okay soo I didn't realize so many people are doing this already lol

@MIA❤️‍🔥 I do about 4-5 minutes myself lol

@V hi, I'm your husband 😂 I'm so bad with adding the little details of things ( @Lauryne right???) Okay thank you for this! I think they'll pick up the hint

@Artemis yes I'm perpetually late, I can't explain how it happens but it's a thing 😭 but not by HOURS like my cousin usually is

@Dana 🦅♥️🤍💙 damn she even got the timing right!! Lol

My best friend is like this. I tell her 2 hrs before and she is still late sometimes

@Asha I can’t ever be late I’m always early. I get anxious if I’m not at least 15-30 mins early. I grew up in karate and they had a saying if your 10 minutes early your on time if your on time your late. If we were late we were doing pushups alllll class. Let’s just say I was only late once. 🤣

no way the person who’s always late is upset that they got told a different time so they arrive ON TIME🤣 personally I hate when people are late, I’ll be getting ready with my friend who’s always late and it’s not like they are busy and are rushing, she’s literally on her phone and taking her SWEET time, it makes my blood boil.

I do it for my family all the time. They’d be late to their own funerals for sure

My brother did this with our entire extended family for his wedding (rightfully so) 😅

I always try to give myself a 15 min window. So if I have something to do at 3 and it's 15 min away I tell myself to leave at 2:30 cuz normally I am back tracked with the kids or people think it's funny to drive super slow. Unless I really don't wanna be there, then I'll leave when I need to or after.