Help. Need advice on how to cope with feeling overwhelmed and unsupported
My 3 year old has seen me go through it so much and I just wish I wasn’t so weak. Or that I at least had a village, I don’t have any family to watch my daughter or even my bd’s family. I’m a full time SAHM with no help or support. I don’t even have a second to take to recharge even at night time.I live with my in laws so I try to have everything clean to not step on any toes, so when baby is napping I’m either cleaning, cooking or working out. I don’t want my storm to get my baby wet but she’s around me all the time, idk how I can’t have my days without her seeing. But I feel like it’s effecting her and she’s becoming anxious. When I feel stressed my patience starts to wear thinner and thinner and I get frustrated with things and my daughter can see it and ask if I’m going to cry or will straight up say “don’t cry mom!” She’s only 3. Im afraid I’m going to cause her a lot of issues that only a therapist can help her with. Or maybe I’m being dramatic and this is a normal part that children will see sometimes? Idk. I’m a first time mom with no guidance from family or my partner and his family. Everyone just sort of lives their life and doesn’t offer me any help, maybe they think I have it easy because I’m a SAHM but it’s a hard job.
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My kids have been through a lot themselves - my oldest is turning 3 tomorrow. And I’m in the process of getting him into theraplay, as well as OT & speech therapy. I left my situation in November and am still dealing with a lot myself - but overall I’m doing better and the difference in my kids had been absolutely incredible to see. It does make me sad at times and I blame myself a lot but everything about them has changed for the best. I feel like after everything it does have an impact on them probably more than we realise at times but also sometimes it’s impossible or hard to change your situation.
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My 3yr old has seen the same, I used to try to hide it from him so he wouldn't be burdened by me, but he's very observant lol so I communicate with him about my emotions now and honestly it helps both of us. It's natural for people to go through tough times. I would definitely recommend seeking support if you can, maybe ask the people you're around if they are willing to step in at all so you can fulfill goals for yourself (time for enjoyment and relaxation are also necessary priorities/"goals").