Single mom grieving old life

Yes I feel you so much in you need to chat I’m here

F#%£. I pray God favors you and your baby in every way that seems impossible 💕.

I just want to add that you don’t have to do it completely alone. You can at least sue for child support and if he defaults it can affect his eventual application for citizenship.

Thank you

I am trying to get child support but it still sucks

Never imagined I’d be alone

It’s so hard! I get it!

If he left you right after getting his green card, I think you should let in the idea that he was not your best friend, that he was playing you and this was always part of the plan... It's sad, but its also good because then you know this was not just a loss, but that his leaving was to make space in your life for real love, not a fake substitute. Your child is a beautiful gift, even if their father was not. In time you will build your own village, but even now, you are definitely not alone. Even for those with more help, we all start at the beginning. ❤️

I'm also very alone. it sucks. I'm sorry

You’re right I just work all week and take care of my son and on a Friday all I want to do is share with someone and I can’t anymore it’s very hard. Anyone have any solo rituals that help?

My whole friend group is single and coparenting. They rely heavily on their sisters and friends to get by in life. We do play dates w the boys weekly and a girls night fortnightly. It’s time to start reaching out, really reaching out and putting yourself out there, so you can make some friends to at least do life with. Some people attend church for the socialising aspect on Sundays I admit I’m not very religious but I absolutely loved church for the community. Maybe look for one near you and attend Sundays- I’m not talking traditional chapel church I’m talking ones they hold in a warehouse, new age modern Christian type church, look up Hillsong or Planetshakers on YT, them ones. Feel like I’m attending a concert every Sunday lol. And because we drop off the kids at kids church, (the next building over) they have fun and make friends too. (And us adults get a 2hr break, free lol) Good luck Xx

I joined a mom group and it greatly improved things for me, always activities to look forward to and friends to get together with 💕 I highly recommend finding groups

Where did you find the mom group

I looked on fb groups and randomly asked moms in my neighborhood

I’m sorry this is now your reality, however it sounds like your were part of a long game. I agree with @Gin I would inform immigration, just sent a letter or email, include as much details like date the green card was approved and day he left the home/ asked for a divorce. Even if your baby was planned, I think it was also part of his plan to ensure he had some leverage to stay in the US after leaving you, sorry to say. Join some mum groups, go to your local part and meet other mums, don’t isolate yourself, create your own support system.