Does having a baby break relationships?
Our baby is 9 months old. I feel like my marriage is crumbling. We can't make time for romance or private time together (sexy time), he's always working and coming back angry at me for things I didn't do. Misplacing things that he lost, etc. He also gets mad at me for feeling tired and not feeling like getting the baby and myself ready to go on a drive. Like there's lots of stuff I'll need to pack. How long will we be gone? What if she gets fussy and we're in the middle of nowhere? I had I lot of thoughts in my head. I just said I wanted to eat first, then we can try to go, and he got mad and said it was "too much of a hassle" for me. It feels like our whole relationship is a missed high five and we never have time for each other or it's never the right time for either of us. I don't want to leave, but I'm feeling lost and sad. What should I do? I'm scared to tell him because I don't want him upset about how I feel.
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If he’s truly your partner, he’ll listen - we’ve had a few of these tough moments and conversations, then stepped away and both taken the actions to improve, even if only in small ways. These first weeks and months and years are TOUGH, it’s important to have those lines of communication otherwise you’ll lose yourself x
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The whole purpose of why we couple the way we do is to make babies so I don’t think babies break relationships. Though I do think the stress of raising a baby can deepen the cracks that are already present in the relationship. I would have a deep talk and figure out what’s really going on. Communication is key.