14 month old not normal?

My family is telling me what she does is not normal. She’s basically full of energy and does not sit still a single second of the day and is always pulling stuff. She does whatever she wants even if i say no a million times. If I call her name she just continues doing whatever she wants. If call her name and say LOOK PIZZA she will look up at me immediately. What am I doing wrong? I thought kids are suppose to be like this at this age to learn and explore. Yeah I’m exhausted trying to tame her all the time. She doesn’t stay in my arms for more than 2 minutes and then wants to be picked up all the time. If I walk 10 feet away from her she will freak out. Just separation anxiety. I know it will be a while until she is more chill but at what point will she listen to me and obey? Any advice? Thanks.