So my mom and I recently got into a heated conversation to where she’s not spoken to me in 3 days. It was all over Halloween plans. She then decided that she wanted to make the rest of this year’s holiday plans all about her.

She said she felt so disappointed, that she’d rather just mail our Christmas presents (granted she lives 30 miles away). After I tried calming her down, she went on to say I was so careless in trying to educate myself on her mental illness and that all the feelings I’d discussed so far were all fabricated. So I said I’d “talk to her later”. She followed up with how much I’d hurt her feelings and that if I had anything further to say, then we could talk about that. So I left it alone. My husband has mentioned several times that he should’ve said something years ago, but I wasn’t anywhere near aware of her issues until now. I’m angry that she’s reacted this way, but I also miss the warm and loving mom she used to be. When I’m with her, I try to remember that version of her, but it seems like a lost cause with all of what she’s opened up to this year. What really made me back off, is when she said I’d basically have to be okay with her treating me like sh*t while she works on herself.