Am I over thinking/nit picking? Did I marry the right person?

Sorry in advance for the super long message. 😅 I’ve been with my husband for almost 10 years (married for almost 5) and we have a 3.5 yo and recently had a baby. I can’t help but think, did I marry the right guy? I know comparison is the thief of joy but I look so many other marriages (friends and social media influencers)where they are like married to their best friend and I can’t help but wish I had that. To give a bit of context, when we first started dating, our sex life was pretty good. Fast forward 10 years, and now that we have 2 kids, sex is literally the last thing on my mind right now and will try and find any excuse not to at the moment. But I’ve been really thinking I feel like we’re always on different pages and don’t have much in common and just don’t feel connected at all. I mean, we both love the beach but just a few examples of our differences (I know some of these are prob stupid/minor) We like different foods so it makes it hard to go out to places and/or cook because he’s such a picky eater. I will eat pretty much anything but would like to eat healthier but he would eat just meat and carbs and not eat any fruit or veg and hates seafood but I LOVE seafood. He would literally eat greasy, heavy, or sugary junk food every day if I let him. We don’t like the same music - i can’t stand the music he listens to (I know this sounds stupid and not a deal breaker for me just contributing difference) I’m conscious of hygiene and appearance. I also feel like I do more of the cleaning and tidying at home and feel like I’m constantly nagging. I went to a private school and he went to a public school and he always pays out “private school people” and calls us all snobs and it frustrates the f*ck out of me. I would prefer to get out of the house and do things and see things together and always suggesting things to go do and see but he would probably prefer to stay home and just play video games or watch Netflix or sports. We seem to have different parenting approaches and always disagreeing so it’s hard to have a united front when it comes to disciplining our toddler on things like respect, swearing and table manners. He hardly makes an effort to have deep conversations and I always feel I have to open up/start conversations. Last time we ended up going to dinner, I felt like I was starting the conversations. Also, when he comes from work, he’ll ask me how my day was but will be looking at his phone so I find it really frustrating having a conversation with someone who is just looking at their phone. He always whinges about bad drivers and people being on their phones or not paying attention and today, we were driving on an expressway today at 100km’s an hour, with our 2 kids in the back and then he decided to quickly check his phone for the footy score. I got really pissed off and said “Can you pay attention to the road especially because we’ve got the kids in the car.. if I did the same thing, you would pull me up on it and have a go at me” because he has in the past. He got all defensive and said he would not, and we got into a pretty heated argument about it until I just said I don’t want to argue about this with the kids in the car. He seems to have moved on and thinks everything is fine but I’m awake after feeding my baby and still pissed off. I also feel like we have a different sense of humour as I don’t find him funny even when he tries to be. Could be my lack of sleep and mental load. We are both super stubborn. And I feel like lately all we do is bicker, snap and argue with eachother but I’m not sure if it’s the lack of sleep and dealing with new baby and toddler. I just can’t help but feel like we’re not connecting and something is missing and our morals, goals don’t align. Also, at our wedding, a few of his friends had some party drugs and he had some but didn’t tell me. I don’t care that he had it to be honest I’m offended he didn’t ask me if I wanted any and that he didn’t tell me. Instead I had to find out a few months later from one of his friends and then he denied it in front of both of us which I knew because his friend was like.. err this is awkward. He then admitted the truth and I was so humiliated that he lied to my face in front of his friends and I think I still have trust issues when he goes out drinking.. Am I over thinking this/nit picking? I have mentioned to him in the past that I feel like we’re always on different pages and he always had a rebuttal like “opposites attract” Anyone else been in this situation? Not sure how to bring this up with my husband without hurting his feelings or if I should say anything at all in case I’m just picking at every little thing because I have more time to think and get in my head and my patience is tested with minimal sleep. I don’t want to say anything to my friends as I’m feel stupid, ashamed & embarrassed and like a bitch because I feel like I’m nitpicking (because I have more time to think and get in my own head probably) but at the same time I don’t know if I’m happy or if it’s just a matter of me thinking the “grass is greener? “ 😖😩 Any insight/advice would be great. 😔😔 Thank you xxx